Eloping after wedding is planned?

We do almost 100 elopements a year, and I can tell you you're not alone, but you want to make a decision as soon as possible so your guests can cancel their reservations (which should be possible this far ahead...)

I think almost everyone gets to this point in their planning; the real question is will this make you happy? If the answer is yes, do it.

I know hoq your feeling me and my fh made the desicion feom a planned wedding ceremony at a site to just going to city hall becuase of family drama we dont want on our day and we are sticking with the city hall wedding with us and our kids and our sisters and parents for right now unless we emd up just having us two and our children but we have decided to stY with the little city hall ceremony so you amd your fh do what makes you two happy cuz like you said all u want isnto marry the love of your life and have it your day thats how im thinking also so just do what makes your two happy its you two's day do it how you two feel comfortable and happy and congrats on your engagment and soon to be wedding say

I agree with Elphaba. Follow through with your original plan. I've thought of eloping too when planning a wedding gets frustrating

I missed your other post, but there were several times I desperately wanted to elope. I begged my DH more than once, and we even called vendors to double check how much money we'd lose at one point.

In the end I'm really glad we stuck with the original plans. Three of my six siblings acted like a wedding was no big deal (one left early, one left and came back, one didn't show at all), I avoided my horrible uncle like the plague (after inviting him against my deepest desires in order to be a good sport), and I worried all week about whether I'd be embarrassed by having to call the police at some point (you'd be shocked how often that happens in my family, but it didn't on our wedding day!).

But you know what I remember most? The look on my parents' faces as they saw me as a bride. DH's smile as I audibly sobbed/laughed in happy tears walking down the aisle. Saying our vows and kissing him as my husband. The hugs of absolute joy from our family members in our receiving line. All the love that was showered on us by those who were over the moon happy for us. The situations that hurt fade into the background in comparison to the happiness.

Thinking of you, because it's a really hard decision, especially if something is really bothering you. Would it hurt you more or hurt people you love most to let go of the wedding you have planned? Sometimes the quick bandaid fix isn't the best idea and it's better to tough it out. It may end up better than you ever thought it would!

If it makes you happy and is what you truely want to do then elope. But think hard about it and if you decide to elipe call everyone right away so they cancancel their flights and hotels. It should be enough time to get their money back

My husband and I secretly married December 3rd. Our wedding was planned and paid for so were still having it for our family

I wanted to elope from the beginning and sometimes I wish we had. Wedding planning and family drama can be so overwhelmingly stressful! You are not alone. Good luck in whatever you decide!

I cancelled my wedding after invitations were sent out, because of issues with stress/ family drama. It meant making sure each guest was notified of the cancellation personally. I didn't have anyone that had spent money booking accommodations and luckily got all but 100 back from our deposits. If you can stand losing what money you might then I would say go for it. I am so happy I did. My wedding day was darn near stress free and far better than I could ever imagine. I was miserable before I changed my plans and much happier after. I am totally pro elopement, they are beautiful

We eloped a little over a week ago and it was the best decision we made. It was drama free and so romantic that the whole thing was just "ours."

Every time I work on planning stuff the idea of eloping keeps poking my arm. And I know it's only going to get worse when we get close to my big day. But the wedding's still going to happen. There's no way in hell am I going to call everyone up 2 months prior and say "Sorry guys the wedding's off! No not the marriage just the whole event that I wanted you to be a part of! We just changed our minds sorry!"

Sorry if that's insensitive but it's just so unfair to your guests that made time especially for your big day. If calling and telling everyone that you're canceling is easier than enduring 2 more months than I think that's what you should do. I could never. But do what feels right for you!