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Dedicated October 2020

Elopement/future celebration/vow renewal

VICTORIA, on August 3, 2020 at 9:33 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10
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Hi all!



So, as with many others, FH and I have had to postpone our wedding.
While NY has been opening, the guidelines would not allow us the wedding we planned. So we postponed to June 2021.
That being said: we are STILL getting married on our original date of 10/25/20. We will have about 23 people present (parents, and siblings/spouses). COVID may have caused us to postpone our celebration- but we're not letting it postpone the actual marriage (to each their own though- every couple is dealing with this in their own way).
I'm not sure what the ceremony will look like. Likely something very short, "the basics", what is needed to be married. There won't be readings, etc. And I won't be wearing THE dress.
When our bigger celebration rolls around- would it be weird for us to "redo" the ceremony as we originally planned? Or should we just do a vow renewal? I will be wearing THE dress for this one.
I'm so incredibly stressed that idk what to do😭
Also- we had ordered a few personalized items (guest book and cake topper) that has our original date on it. Since we ARE getting married on the original date- would it be tacky to use those in June 2021 when we're celebrating our marriage with everyone?

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Latest activity by Katharine, on August 4, 2020 at 4:46 PM
  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    I don't think it would be weird to redo the ceremony! COVID is causing a mess for so many weddings, and everyone is doing things differently. I think you should do whatever you'd like best! I also don't think it'd be weird to re-use the items with your original date on them, especially because that date is part of your story, and that will be your anniversary date. My fiance and I postponed our wedding about 6 weeks before our original date, so a lot of our items (guest book, vow books, etc) also already have our original date on them. We plan on re-using them for our new date as a way of honoring our original date (and also because we don't feel it's worth the money to buy new ones).
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  • Michelle
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    I think it’s fine to re-use your stuff next year @ your bow renewal. Stop over thinking this! Lol! So many couples have had to rethink their vision/plans of their wedding so the good thing is you’re not alone in this. It’s a new thing we’re all having to trudge! In a couple of years, we’re gonna sit back & laugh! Thinking “how the heck did we get through that s#!+ show???” Lol!
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  • Mrs.a
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    I’ve seen people redo ceremonies where they eloped and had a bigger ceremony later on with friends and family. I don’t think it’s weird, but FH does lol so we’ll modify things a little so we can come to a good compromise.

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  • V
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    VICTORIA ·
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    Thank you! I also don't think it's worth the money to repurchase the items, but I didn't know how it would "look". I do think we'll redo the ceremony, because we're basically doing the "bare minimum" to get legally married in October- so I'd like the bigger/nicer one in June😂 who knows...we have time now😒😂
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  • V
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    VICTORIA ·
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    Hahaha, so true! My mom keeps saying "at least you'll have one helluva story to tell your grandkids one day"😂😂😩
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  • V
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    VICTORIA ·
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    Ugh, it's very similar for us. FH is very "meh, whatever, forget what people think" and I can't STOP stressing about what people will think😂
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  • Rebecca
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    I'm in the same situation as you. Original date was 9/6/20 in western NY but we've postponed to 7/25/21. We plan to still get married on our date with about 20 people and our photographer. I'm not going to wear my dress either. It'll be more business casual attire, a short ceremony, and photos followed by casual dinner (we rented out an outdoor area of a restaurant so everyone can distance). We aren't exactly sure what next summer's ceremony will look like but I have faith my officiant will come up with something like a cross between a wedding and vow renewal. Sure the whole thing is kind of "non-traditional", but there's nothing "traditional" about this year! We all still deserve the kind of celebration our heart desires. I say re-purpose the items again next year! We'll have a custom sign that is already in the works that we'll just use again next year.

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  • Lisa
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    If the old date on its own is a concern, you could always contact the sellers of those items and ask if they'd be willing to add your new date underneath the old one! That way, both dates are listed, and you don't have to buy a whole new item. For example, the person who made our wooden vow books agreed to etch our new date underneath the old one. We just have to mail the books to her, and she'll etch the new date on them and mail them back. That way, we're not wasting the old ones, and we can honor both dates. Is this something that would be an option for you?
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  • Angel
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    We are also holding a smaller "minimony" and saving our vows/my dress for our postponed ceremony. Totally fine to have a full on ceremony as you originally planned. We also have a cake topper, ring holder, etc. with our original date and will also be using those for the other ceremony. I don't think it's tacky at all Smiley smile part of our experience!

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  • Katharine
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    Not weird at all. That is our plan. We had our mini "elopement" on July 12th, and plan to re-do the whole thing July 10th next year with all our original guests.

    I ended up finding a lovely elopement venue that convinced me to wear my original dress this year. I'm now looking at options for a new dress for next year's re-do.

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