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Just Said Yes September 2021

Elopement

Jasmin, on May 4, 2020 at 8:58 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 9
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We decided to elope because we don’t have many that genuinely will support us. We don’t have many people checking in during this pandemic so I’m sure we will have the same turn around for our wedding. Any advice for me? I have the blues because I’m missing out on the thrill of having a full bridal party.

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  • Jai Butcher
    Rockstar May 2020
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    Aww itll be okay! As long as you and FH are happy! I understand how you feel. We are having a 10 person elopement on 5/16/20. My MOH and I don't talk anymore, she didnt wanna partake in the ceremony n mini reception due to the coronavirus and has been acting differently since the pandemic. At the end of the day I'm marrying the man I love and I couldn't be happier. Keep your head up!
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  • J
    Just Said Yes September 2021
    Jasmin ·
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    Sorry about your MOH! It’s good to know you’re not letting it stop your special day! I know my FH has my back and we’re happy too that’s all that matters. Tough times call for tough decisions unfortunately. Praying this virus goes away soon. Congrats to you Jaimie
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  • Jai Butcher
    Rockstar May 2020
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    It's all good! Thank you tho! Congrats to you too! And honestly friends come and go. I've learned that since becoming engaged. The person I chose as my MOH showed me red flags by some things she did and said but I ignored them. Do the same and dont let anything get in the way of your special day!
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  • Erin
    Savvy August 2021
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    I have been in three weddings that the bride was so close/best friends with and I no longer speak to them! I don’t know why weddings bring out the worst in people. I am sending you all my love during this time! If you need a virtual stand up bridesmaids I can do that! ♥️
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  • LunaJay2021
    Super May 2021
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    I feel you honey, we are in the same situation. We don't really have enough people to support us to have a big wedding, so that's out and if we do the planned elopement, I wont have a full bridal experience. It sucks, but i'm still going to marry my best friend and the love of my life.

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  • Winter Bride
    Expert December 2018
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    IMHO Elopements are THE BEST! Less stress, less drama and more focus on each other, it’s so perfect! To make it special, incorporate things that are sentimental to you both and your relationship. Is there a special place? Special song? Something that represents your relationship? Wear a beautiful dress and do hire a photographer. I promise you won’t want to skip over the pictures. Your wedding will be so romantic and perfect and you’ll make wonderful memories to cherish a lifetime.
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  • Belle
    Super July 2020
    Belle ·
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    I and DH moved so often, from city to city, state to state, country to country. We still have contact with our friends, and we do make new friends. However, my 7 closest besties of 27 years are in the country I was born. 2 besties of 17 years in Europe while I and DH studied. Now I have one bestie of 13 years living 30 minutes away from me in US. My family is spread around the globe too.


    I am having a destination wedding renewal, and I never had or missed bridal and bachelorette party. I do plan to have my ceremony streamed because my family and my besties keeps begging me to do so, and I don’t mind since it won’t be a big problem.
    What about streaming your elopement?
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  • Rebecca
    Rockstar August 2019
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    Absolutely do what you want, but please don't think that because people aren't checking up on you now, that it means they don't care about you.

    Everyone responds differently to stress, and this is just about the most difficult, most stressful time any of us have ever been through. Many people are having to work from home *and* home school *and* figure out how to care for ill family members from a distance *and* keep healthy *and*... it's entirely possible most of your circle is simply overwhelmed. (As for checking in on wedding stuff - that's normal, and I did not expect anyone to check in on me, because it was not their concern. It was a pleasant bonus when people did. Your wedding is exciting to you, and planning is exciting to you, but it is not anyone else's priority.)

    If you are feeling very stressed from the social situation, please reach out to your local university/health provider/county health programs for help finding a therapist, as many programs have gone low-cost/free and virtual during this stressful time.

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  • Nefetera
    Rockstar March 2015
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    Hello
    I get what you saying. As longs as you and your FH are ok with eloping and you both will be satisfied to do so that's all that matters. If you feel you will regret it then try doing something small but having the thrill of a full wedding with ppl. Congrats to you both.
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