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Tiffany
Beginner February 2022

Elopement weekend

Tiffany, on January 19, 2022 at 2:30 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

Hi all! My fiance and I decided to elope in Vegas...and then we decided to invite some of our best friends (total of 5) to be our witnesses and attend our ceremony

Background: We're all flying in Thursday night at different times, so we won't have an official rehearsal dinner, I'm not even sure if we'll all eat together honestly. We'll probably all get a round of drinks though before the night is over (I think) since we're all at the same hotel.

Our ceremony is Friday midday and we've arranged for cars to bring everyone to/from the location (Valley of Fire). We're having a post-ceremony dinner, which my fiance and I are paying for (of course). And we're all staying the weekend in Vegas, but nothing planned for the rest of the weekend

TL;DR - question: If we eat dinners together on Thurs and Sat nights, would my fiance and I pay for those or would those be more of the split-checks kind of situations?

Thanks in advance for everyone's feedback!

10 Comments

Latest activity by Tiffany, on January 26, 2022 at 6:42 PM
  • KYLIE
    Super May 2019
    KYLIE ·
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    I don’t think you need to cover dinners on Thursday and Saturday, but it’d probably be nice to cover a round of drinks!
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
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    I don't think you would need to pay for everyone's dinners on Thursday or Saturday, but if it were in budget and you wanted to, it would be a kind gesture (though certainly not required). I love Kylie's idea of buying a round of drinks on one of those nights! I'd probably suggest Thursday night, as a "Welcome to Vegas" type of thing, and it'd be a great way to start out your wedding weekend!
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  • Jacks
    Champion November 2054
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    You're only obligated to host at the wedding part, to thank your guests for coming. However, I also like the idea of buying drinks, or maybe start with event off by treating everyone to a bottle of bubbly?

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  • Michelle
    Champion December 2022
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    The only thing you are obligated to cover is a rehearsal dinner if any and the reception. Everything else is pay as you go.
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  • Tiffany
    Beginner February 2022
    Tiffany ·
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    Thanks everyone for your advice! Love the Welcome to Vegas idea! Smiley smile

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  • Tiffany
    Beginner February 2022
    Tiffany ·
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    Ooo - I wonder if I need the specify that everything other than rehearsal and reception are pay as you go? Any suggestions on how to broach the subject? Smiley ups

    The night after, the group seemed to be OK with a particular restaurant so I made a rezzie but unsure if folks know it's not covered?

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  • Jacks
    Champion November 2054
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    Oh wait. You invited them to go out and made the rezzie, but didn't tell them they would be paying for that particular meal? Yes, there could be misunderstandings there.

    How about sending the menu with the prices, and saying that the cost seems reasonable what does everyone think?

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  • Tiffany
    Beginner February 2022
    Tiffany ·
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    Well - almost - I sent the menus (with prices) to get the OKs but also mentioned that everyone's free to make other plans for dinner but this is where we (me and my fiance) are planning to dine at

    I just didn't explicitly say "Hey, we're not covering this one dinner" Smiley atonished

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  • Jacks
    Champion November 2054
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    I think that's OK. If you want to drive it home, just ask if the pricing at that restaurant is OK with everyone.

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  • Tiffany
    Beginner February 2022
    Tiffany ·
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    Great suggestion, thank you! Smiley smile

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