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Elopement save the dates?

Nichole , on January 23, 2018 at 6:30 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

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Fiancé and I are eloping and having a casual backyard party to celebrate our marriage a month after we get home. We are being honest with people and telling them we are eloping if they ask but keeping the details to ourselves and not broadcasting it to everyone. Should we send out save the dates so people know when to expect the party? or would that be weird since the they aren't invited to a wedding, just a party? I'm just worried that a months notIce for a marriage celebration isn't enough time for people to make plans

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Latest activity by Ashleigh, on February 13, 2020 at 11:42 AM

Beginner September 2018
zynga112 · on January 23, 2018 at 6:39 PM
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I totally think you can send save the dates! I'd make sure the style of them is reflective of the fact that its a party, not a formal wedding.
Just because your doing something a bit alternative, doesn't mean you can't give your guests a good heads up on when and where to celebrate with you. I'm sure they will appreciate the extra notice so that they can make arrangements etc.
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VIP May 2018
Red Queen · on January 23, 2018 at 7:09 PM
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Why not just send invitations rather than Save the Dates?
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BlueHenBride · on January 23, 2018 at 7:18 PM
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I would just send invitations.
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Expert May 2018
Monica · on January 23, 2018 at 7:20 PM
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Invitations on when everything planned will be better
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Beginner January 2018
Jeanisa · on January 23, 2018 at 7:23 PM
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Whichever you feel is more appropriate for your celebration. Also are you expecting to get an answer or RSVP from the people you send these to? You can totally have a save the date and add how to RSVP to them
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Lauren · on January 24, 2018 at 10:58 AM
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Invites will be fine. You could always give out of town guests a call or email for a heads up too. Keep it casual to match your celebration
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Savvy June 2018
ablyssa · on January 24, 2018 at 1:51 PM
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I think you can absolutely send save the dates! My friend is doing the same thing (not eloping, but her actual marriage will be a small family-only ceremony), and her backyard party is on a separate date. She sent out STDs, and I think that's totally normal! I'd just make it clear on the STD that it's a party/reception to celebrate your marriage.
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Just Said Yes June 2020
Ashleigh · on February 13, 2020 at 11:42 AM
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I'm planning on doing the same thing, how did your friend word her STD?
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