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Just Said Yes May 2020

Elopement on May 8, 2020

Tori, on April 2, 2020 at 4:20 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 14
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Hi fellow brides - thinking of all of you during this difficult time. Question - my fiancé and I had plans to elope in Charleston, SC on May 8. It's just the two of us, an officiant and photographer and we were having a small private ceremony on the cobblestone streets outside Rainbow Row. It's not that big of a deal to reschedule, but that date had significance to both of us and we did get a few things created already with the date. At this point, would you move forward or postpone? Our officiant and photographer could all technically stay six feet apart and it would literally be a 5 minute ceremony. We would obviously miss out on any dinners or celebrations afterward, but we could of course do that at another time. What are your thoughts?

Thank you - Tori.

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    It sounds fine for you to keep your date and continue with your ceremony as is, actually!

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  • K.J.
    Savvy September 2020
    K.J. ·
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    Try to think about the future. Looking back, will you regret not having done it that day? Regardless of whether or not you can celebrate with others, it is your day. Will the memories be tainted by the lack of afterparties or will you be glad you did it on that special date? What matters most to you?

    We also had to make a tough decision on the location of our wedding, but we realized that it was a very special place and though some people might not be able to make it, these are going to be our memories, not theirs! As much as we'd love everyone we know to make it, we would regret not doing it in the place that is so important to us.

    Alternatively, if you're willing to wait a year you could always do it on that date again... or you could just get married that day and then have an afterparty in a few months.

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
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    This sounds fine. The two of you presumably already live together, fewer than ten people are involved, and the officiant and photographer will maintain social distance. You can always have dinners or celebrations later, when the pandemic has been contained.

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
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    The question is not whether "some people might not be able to make it." No one should be invited, except perhaps immediate family (less than ten people total, including you two and the officiant). Even if people are willing to chance it, because they are not in a high risk group, they can end up giving it to others who are in a high risk group. Or getting it and needing hospital space/ventilators, which are in short supply right now. (A friend just had appendicitis, and her appendix ruptured because she avoided going to the hospital out of fear of COVID-19, so this affects more than just the people who get the virus.) And even if you think none of your guests have it, people are most infectious right before they start having symptoms.

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  • K.J.
    Savvy September 2020
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    I think you misunderstood my comment. I'm not suggesting she invite people to her elopement. And my "some people might not be able to make it" has nothing to do with Coronavirus, it's related to my own wedding being 6 hours away.

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    Beginner June 2020
    Lacey ·
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    My FH and I are doing the same think on 4/10/20. Just us, our officiant and a photographer, who will all maintain social distance rules. We are having our bigger celebration later (scheduled for June but I know that could change). What are your thoughts on making things special afterward? I am hoping for a nice walk outdoors, maybe some champagne and dinner delivered to our home.

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
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    Ah, okay, I thought you were saying you were saying it would be okay to have a wedding with more than a few people now. What you're saying makes a lot more sense.

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  • K.J.
    Savvy September 2020
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    Haha, noooooo. I ain't crazy Smiley tongue

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  • Aida
    Devoted August 2020
    Aida ·
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    Sounds good. And you can have a reception if you choose to at a later date but at least you'll be married on the important date you wanted. I actually thought about doing that too but I'm still undecided.

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  • Carly
    Just Said Yes May 2020
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    We are doing the same thing on May 2. The date is what’s important to us and it’s going to be us, our officiant, two photographers and a videographer. We postponed our reception for a few months, but are still going to get married. Everyone else feels comfortable and that also mattered to me, thankfully everyone is still willing to do it that day!
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    Just Said Yes May 2020
    Tori ·
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    Thanks Carly - are you just doing it at home?

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  • Carly
    Just Said Yes May 2020
    Carly ·
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    No, we are actually doing it in a woodsy area. So still no interaction with other people
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  • Naikesha
    Super September 2020
    Naikesha ·
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    I actually love the Idea Covid is already taken so much from us don't allow it to take your special date away as well. Go on with your elopement and plan the best wedding reception you can post Covid. Your family and fiends whom love and support you will be there to celebrate your union. Congrats and enjoy your new life!

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    Just Said Yes December 2020
    Sarah ·
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    We're doing the same thing on May 4. We have an officiant and photographer lined up and will just need one additional witness. We won't be including any friends or family as we just want this moment for us in light of everything going on. We'll be in a public park so maintaining distance won't be an issue. We postponed the big celebration to December. Silver lining, we get to include our dog in the ceremony which makes us both so very happy.

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