I'm experiencing an immense amount of elopement guilt. My fiancee and I are still planning on exchanging vows this Thursday, but with just us and our photographer. We're super uncomfortable being around others right now (we haven't even done any socially distanced hangs or outings to see family), and have already planned (hopefully) to have a large celebration next year. My fiancee's family lives in New York, we live in DC, and my mother is in the area. We've indicated that we're more comfortable exchanging vows solo - both because my mom and my step father are both super high risk, and because we don't want to hurt my fiancee's family or have them feel more left out than they already do. We're having a Zoom hang with our immediate family later that day so that we can celebrate a little bit together (we've sent champagne to our family members participating!). My mother is super hurt, and to the point of being very passive aggressive when we've spoken this past week - she doesn't understand our decision, but says she'll respect our choice. Of course I want my mother there - we want all of our families there! But given the pandemic, we're just not comfortable.
Am I way off base here?