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Just Said Yes April 2018

Elopement and big ceremony

Anna, on July 16, 2017 at 12:05 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 6

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Hey y'all. I never really introduced myself. Been on here a while. My name is Anna and I'm engaged to my high school sweetheart, Cody. We've been together five years, and he proposed to me on folly beach in May this year.

We were originally planning an April garden wedding in 2018, but FH just told me he is set to be in warrant officer training (he's in the Air Force and planning on joining the Army) then. Now the wedding has been pushed back to October 2018, and it feels like forever away.

We're discussing eloping now before he goes off to training and having the big wedding whenever he gets back. The only thing is I don't want any family drama over it. If any of you eloped, did your family make it a big deal? And is it stupid to elope and then have a big wedding a year later? Just looking for some advice right now. Thanks, guys!

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Latest activity by Kate, on July 16, 2017 at 11:44 AM

Super July 2018
LibbyLane · on July 16, 2017 at 12:28 AM
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You'd have to tell people it was a vow renewal, because you can't just pretend to have a whole other wedding (at that point it's just a silly PPD).
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VIP April 2018
Amandaw · on July 16, 2017 at 12:31 AM
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You can elope now and have a celebration later. But if your family is wanting the actual wedding be prepared for drama
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Savvy March 2018
Lynn · on July 16, 2017 at 12:48 AM
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Go ahead and elope and have a Celebration of Love a year apart and do your vows and wedding dress and all the fun stuff. There will be drama no matter what. If you're ready to be married then do it.
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Rachel · on July 16, 2017 at 6:20 AM
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This is exactly what my husband and I did for similar reasons. We eloped last year, and got a ton of love and support. We are having what my dad calls "the formal wedding" this October on our one year anniversary. I have a dress, cake, and we're doing a ceremony and everything. Mostly everyone has been super excited and supportive. There's always a few grumps. Honestly, you need to do what is best for you and Cody. You're the one having to live your life. There's always drama no matter what you decide. I think anyone who cares about you will understand. Congratulations and good luck
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Tricia · on July 16, 2017 at 10:51 AM
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We're doing exactly that. My fiancé is also in the Army and we're doing a courthouse wedding later this year with just our parents present. We are telling our guests we are doing courthouse and just having a beach ceremony a year after courthouse date. Our planner said do your Beach ceremony like you didn't have a courthouse before with vows and all that even though everyone will know. We've told our closer friends and family this and everyone seems pretty ok with it.
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Mrs · on July 16, 2017 at 11:42 AM
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I don't see anything wrong with this, as long as everyone knows you're getting married now! You can have a vow renewal/celebration of love next October and it'll be beautiful.
Congratulations!
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