Elope or not Elope? Family issues

My fiance and I had originally planned to have an intimate wedding in Portland Oregon. We both have very small families and didn't want to have a giant affair for people who are merely acquaintances. We announced to our families in May of 2019 that we were planning to get married next August/ September of 2020. Everyone seemed excited and talked about how they would be there no matter what. My father who lives in Michigan with the majority of my family promised to be there to give me away. Now to preface, I am very close with my dad but in the 13 years I have lived in Texas he has never once come to visit me here. I typically fly to Michigan and visit from time to time. He has back issues and is in his late 60's so he is a creature of comfort and hasn't really traveled anywhere in over 20 years. Yesterday he tells me that "the family" would appreciate it if we considered getting married in Texas or either Michigan so that none of them have to pay for a hotel or other accommodations and they can instead stay in their own homes or the home of one of our Texas relatives. It's important to me to have my dad present for my day but the only reason my fiance and I were even considering a wedding was to accommodate my family. She will only have 3 family members present and they are more than happy to travel to whichever destination we decide. I don't feel like its fair to change everything and get married in Texas or in Michigan just to accommodate my family when it seems like they are unwilling to compromise with us. I want to elope but also don't want to hurt my dad. Do any of you have experience with this sort of thing?