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Just Said Yes September 2019

Elope instead? Stressed :(

Kaitlyn, on July 1, 2019 at 12:54 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7

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I'm just really torn on what to do. I was so excited to have a fun wedding with our families, but I feel like my dream for a wedding is just slowly disappearing and also overwhelming me. I feel like I'm just making others mad and I can't deal with it. I continue to think "if I could go back and do this" but every time I also do that it tends to be sacrificing something I want for someone else. I'm just such a people pleaser and I feel like I have done it to where I'm in a hole. I would love to just cancel the wedding and elope somewhere, but I don't think I could cover the finances I would lose..it would be so devastating. So I'm just trying to convince myself the wedding will be fine...but I'm just not looking forward to it like I used to be. Trying hard to fake it. Any other brides been in a similar situation? What did you do?

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Latest activity by Stephanie, on July 4, 2019 at 3:51 AM

Legend June 2019
Melle · on July 1, 2019 at 12:57 AM
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remember that this is your day and I know everyone can be so opinionated but at the end of the day everyone really is happy just to be able to celebrate your day with you.
My motto during wedding planning was always just do what I want and what makes me happy. People are going to judge and be opinionated regardless of what you do so ya may as well do what makes you happy in the end
Take a breath, everything will work out fine in the end.
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Anna · on July 1, 2019 at 3:17 AM
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Just take a deep breath. I used to be like you and i realized that all i was doing is making myself miserable. Why not have a small wedding where its just you and your immediate family? That's what i'm doing. Just remember we're not getting time back. Enjoy it. I havens told anyone when my day is. This way no one ask if their invited. If they do, i just laugh and tell myself "you ain't." So don't stress okay.
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Cyndy · on July 1, 2019 at 8:01 AM
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First of all I would say that it is YOUR day! You need to stop pleasing people and do what makes YOU and your FH happy. I would stop telling people what you are doing and when they ask I would say “it’s all a surprise from here on out”. Don’t give people the Oporto give their opinion. It’s true that by doing that you are giving in to others and therefore stressed. Try to take a deep breath and from today forward take everyone else out of the equation and do things your way. In the end you will be much happier. Good luck!
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Expert August 2019
N · on July 1, 2019 at 8:49 AM
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STOP TELLING PEOPLE WHAT YOU ARE DOING. 🤣🤣
Everyone is going to have an opinion and you can’t please everyone...like ever. So don’t bother. You will thank yourself tenfold later. Anyone who complains after the event can be directed to Dr. Who to solve their space time continuum issues because that realm is out of your control. 🙃
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Stephanie · on July 1, 2019 at 9:24 AM
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I had a crisis too where I seriously considered cutting my losses and just eloping instead. The stress was just getting too much. In the end, I decided to continue on with the ceremony and reception because it's more in line with what I want and I think it would be more stress and more money trying to cancel and move around what I already had set up. Like PPs said, it's your day do what is going to make you happy.
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Kelly · on July 1, 2019 at 11:03 AM
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1. Stop telling people what you're doing! Everything is need to know basis! Anyone asks just say it'll be romantic and you want to surprise guests.
2. This is your day, you can put your foot down and tell others too bad. It's okay to be a people pleaser but not for your wedding, it's about pleasing you.
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Expert June 2019
MrsJohansson · on July 1, 2019 at 6:22 PM
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Life is too short to make important personal milestones about other people.. DH and I eloped and looking back now, we are happy we didn't subscribe to the pressures of traditional weddings and planning.. that's not how we want to continue life together.

If it isn't possible to recoup money and elope, keep the details of your wedding plans to yourself. That may help you reduce stress.
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