Ease my mind.

1. If he can’t afford to participate, he can decline their offer.
2. You can always discuss pre-wedding events together to make sure the dates aren’t the same.

Your wedding festivities take priority for you and your FH only. Everyone else is free to choose what their priorities are. As long as he makes that clear when accepting, I don’t see why this is an issue. My ex-husband and I were both in a wedding (I was MOH) 4 weeks after we got married and it worked out fine.

Hey! I totally get where you're coming from because that is a tight timeline. In these situations, planning and communication are going to be your bt friends. If there is any way to at least be coordinated on pre wedding event dates and associated payments, it would help both couples. Because if you think in the reverse, a couple who just got married is probably recovering from their own wedding financially. Not to mention the potential overlap of relatives from his side. So cheers to you and your FH! You got this! Know your day is going to be uniquely gorgeous because your love is just that and begin the timeline dialogue of potentially overlapped dates so there's no misunderstanding as you all get closer.

View Quoted Comment Thanks Chelsea 💕

View Quoted Comment We discussed what his response should be, that plan failed. He accepted in the moment. Yes absolutely our wedding stuff and just life stuff take priority. I said if there’s a conflict then there’s a conflict

THe summer I married my ex, 2 of my friends were also getting married. May, June, and July. We were all in each others weddings, and there wasn't an issue. No overlapping. We were all aware of, and respectful of, budgetary issues. Everyone was able to be in everyone else's, and each person's was wonderful! As long as his cousin can be respectful of your wedding, and is willing to consider the things you mentioned, I don't see a problem. And like you said, if there's a conflict, he'll just have to miss something.

View Quoted Comment Thank You Theresa 😊

My FH’s sister is getting married the month before us and we have both been asked to be a part of their wedding party. It was fine with me because were planning on asking them as well. But honestly I think it’s a lot of fun, we’ve been kind of planning together and we’re going to share some of our decor and such. I’m just planning all my events about a month after hers so she gets her time and we get ours, and it’s following the same timeline with our weddings. At first it felt like it was going to be a competition but it hasn’t been at all, we've worked together and it takes a bit of stress away because we are doing things together.

My husbands groomsman got married a week before us and the groomsman was nervous we would set a date before him. And I think his worries also stemmed from comparisons and what not but at the end of the day every wedding is so different

Has he already accepted? If not, does he want to? If it’s not financially feasible, he can decline and explain why. I’m sure the cousin will understand.


If a close cousin or friend asked me 1 month before my wedding, I’d probably say yes. I’ve been part of multiple bridal parties and been MOH twice. MOH is more work but only prior to wedding (planning bachelorette and bridal shower/brunch) but for the wedding itself, there’s honestly not that much for BM/Groomsman to do. Bridal party is merely decorative in most cases. You go where coordinator says and pose where photographers ask you. What groomsman responsibility could he possibly have that would conflict with your own wedding one month later?

View Quoted Comment Thanks Melle for your feedback

View Quoted Comment Yeah he accepted in the moment. I think it should be fine.

View Quoted Comment 💕thanks for all the feedback. I’m okay with it. It’ll be fine

View Quoted Comment Happy to hear that for you, wish it was the same case for me. But I’ll be okay