Early Wedding Gifts and Thank You Note Etiquette

Always send a thank you note immediately. Do so again after the wedding.

Always immediately. No need to wait until you have a bunch to do, something could slip through the cracks.

You should send thank you notes for anything received prior to the wedding right after receiving it. Majority of your guests will probably also bring a cash or check to the wedding even if they gifted you something for a shower, etc. so you will most likely be sending out multiple thank you notes to the same guests at different times. Obviously they don't have to gift you anything additional on your wedding day but it seems that most people do.

Thank you notes should always be sent asap, no mater what the occasion. It has two benefits: it lets the giver know that you have received the gift, and it is one less for you to end after the wedding.

There is no real need to send "thank you for attending our wedding" notes. The reception is your thanks to your guests for their attendance at your ceremony. Of course, if you are thanking them for a wedding gift after the wedding, it is fine to thank then for attending.

Sending that type of thank you after the wedding to a guest who didn't bring or send a gift, can be seen as a passive aggressive reminder.

Thank you ladies! The input is greatly appreciated and that will be going in the mail today!

Send one now

I've sent thank you notes immediately after receiving a gift. It makes life so much easier. If they gift again at the wedding they'll get another thank you note

We received a little before and we thanked them immediately. Anyone who provided us with a gift will get a thank you card after the wedding as well.

I found that doing them as we received the gifts was the best way to go (and the most proper thing to do anyway). It kept me from being overwhelmed after the actual wedding, and we got so many comments about how nice it was to get a thank you card so soon after the gifts were sent.

You need to send a thank you now, but option 3 isn't out of the question either.

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