I'm in a tricky situation. My other half spoke with my parents about getting engaged before we went out of the country. My family then decided to tell me and the engagement never happened. My other half now has been postponing the engagement. The issue is is before all of this happened, when we were initially even talking about getting married, we had chosen a date. That date is in November and still no ring... he let it slip that he still wants to get marroes that day. I'm a big preplanner and a bit controlling when it comes to things like this. I want to start planning the wedding by deciding "little things" such as colors and flowers and decorations and such just so that when we get engaged it'll be a little more manageable. Am I being unreasonable?