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Savvy June 2019

E-vites for Millennial Wedding

Colleen , on April 3, 2019 at 4:56 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 24

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I sent out e-vites via Paperless Post for my save the dates. Everyone viewed the email within 1-2 days (I was notified when each recipient opened the email) and had no problems with emails getting sent straight to junk or spam. Even my 90 year old great uncle responded to the invite via Paperless
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70% of our guests are millennials. I personally preferred receiving e-vites over paper invites to weddings I’ve been to in the past year.
I was totally planning on sending e-vites for the formal invitations as well, but after browsing through the forums on here I’ve seen lots of arguments AGAINST e-vites. But mostly for reasons that I already know won’t be a problem, like “old people don’t have email,” or “it could get sent to spam.”
It will save me hundreds of dollars to send out e-vites as opposed to paper invites that will just be thrown away. And this way I can see exactly who has received the invites/it’s easier to keep track of who has RSVP’d.
So I guess I’m just wondering, why are they considered tacky? It saves hundreds and I’m also cutting down on waste. I see more pros than cons, considering it worked so well for the save the dates and the response was huge.

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Latest activity by Renee, on April 4, 2019 at 1:49 AM

Champion June 2019
Gen · on April 3, 2019 at 5:01 PM
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I definitely think there are a lot of perks to evites, as you have listed.

But, regardless of the reason why, an evite is by nature less formal than a print invitation. If that doesn’t bother you, then there’s nothing wrong with it and you should do it! But if you’re planning to have a formal wedding, an evite may give guests the wrong impression.
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Master September 2019
Sarah · on April 3, 2019 at 5:02 PM
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If it works for your crowd, then do it. In my opinion, e-vites are for casual events. A cookout, a family holiday party, maybe a kid’s birthday party. Weddings are usually more formal and so I believe more formal invitations should be sent. Again though, if this works for your crowd, you know them better than we do.
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Super September 2019
ASMini914 · on April 3, 2019 at 5:18 PM
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I don’t know that it’s considered tacky to send an evite, but it is much less formal. Invitations set the stage for the atmosphere of your wedding, if you send an informal invitation, people are going to assume it’s an informal wedding.
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LB · on April 3, 2019 at 5:20 PM
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Evite reads "cookout" to me. If that's the kind of wedding you're having than I think it's fine. Anything more formal than that should have an actual invite IMO.
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Kelly · on April 3, 2019 at 5:24 PM
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We had a very formal wedding so evites wouldn’t have been appropriate as the invitation is how people gauge the formality of the event. For a casual event I think it’s okay.
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VIP May 2019
Mandy · on April 3, 2019 at 5:24 PM
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I agree with the above. As a guest, if I get an e-vite, I'm going to assume it's very laid back, casual, jeans/nice shirt, back yard BBQ setting event. I bought 100 invites, 100 RSVP cards, 100 envelopes for each and 280 return address labels for barely over $100 + like $100 in stamps (for invites, RSVPs and thank you cards). In the overall cost of the wedding, that's nothing to spend for it to be taken more "seriously" as a formal event.
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MrsD · on April 3, 2019 at 5:29 PM
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I wouldn't care if I got an evite, I just would probably take it less seriously. It seems more informal, like a Facebook invite to a casual party where I don't have to RSVP. I get so many emails a day, it would be hard some days for me to remember important personal ones.
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Savvy June 2019
Colleen · on April 3, 2019 at 5:34 PM
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But what if the invitation says “ballroom” and “cocktail attire”?
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VIP May 2019
Mandy · on April 3, 2019 at 5:41 PM
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If you're doing a formal event, do a formal invitation. If you're doing a casual event with no dress code - the e-vite would be fine. I get so much junk email that I would glance at the invite then go on.
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LB · on April 3, 2019 at 5:44 PM
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I'd honestly roll my eyes a little. So you expect your guests to put the effort into dressing up but you cant put the effort into getting an actual invite...?
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Savvy June 2019
Colleen · on April 3, 2019 at 5:45 PM
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The junk email wasn’t a problem. It is still a formal invitation, and will look beautiful/just the same as the paper, but it will be delivered by email to cut out waste. (Vegan/plastic free gal here) It will have the venue listed with the word “ballroom” included and “cocktail attire” in the bottom right hand corner. Will people still consider it informal?
i received two evites to weddings and assumed
nothkng about the formality, I just emailed and asked what the attire was.
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Savvy June 2019
Colleen · on April 3, 2019 at 5:49 PM
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Well to me it has nothing to do with effort and everything to do with waste/environment.
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Master September 2019
Sherry · on April 3, 2019 at 5:55 PM
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I am super laid back so I would be fine receiving an e-vite for a wedding and wouldn't take it any less serious than any other invitation. If it works for your crowd, I see no issue with it. You know what will work for you and your crowd.
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Champion November 2016
LB · on April 3, 2019 at 5:55 PM
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That's totally fine. I'm just letting you know how I would react as a guest. Maybe your guests will react differently...
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Wendy · on April 3, 2019 at 5:59 PM
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I am also doing everything E vites... it depends on your crowd and you have the right one so go for it.. I also think it’s a waste of money, people throw them away anyways...
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Dedicated August 2019
Renae · on April 3, 2019 at 7:41 PM
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I think paper invites are a waste of time and money. I always get them and take a photo and they go right in the trash. Just because you are doing an e-invite doesn't mean that it implies your guests can wear jeans to your wedding. E- Invites give the same information, has links to directly RSVP or go to the website if you want and healthier for the environment. People on here can assume what they want but I've been to 3 weddings that did e invites and they were all semi formal or cocktail and someone showing up in jeans etc would have looked incredibly rude.
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Dedicated September 2019
Vicki · on April 3, 2019 at 7:43 PM
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I think it totally depends on your crowd! I went to a wedding in Napa last year that was beautiful and did all e-vites (STDs and invitations). They were beautifully designed and even though it was less traditional, the rest of the wedding was very traditional and lovely.
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Savvy June 2019
Colleen · on April 3, 2019 at 8:03 PM
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Honestly! For a way cheaper price I can make an absolutely gorgeous invitation on Paperless Post. I love their designs. Idk why people think it’s less effort... it’s the exact same invitation just without using tons of paper. I spent a full day designing my save the dates.
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Savvy June 2019
Colleen · on April 3, 2019 at 8:05 PM
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Thank you! Ok, I was honestly starting to panic a little. But I don’t know a single person I’m inviting to my wedding who would ever dare wear jeans just because I sent an emailed invite lol. It says “ballroom” in the name of the venue!!
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Savvy June 2019
Colleen · on April 3, 2019 at 9:04 PM
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I understand that. Do you think that it is only considered less formal because it isn’t the norm, though, or how it’s traditionally done? If the word “ballroom” is in the venue name, do you still think guests would just assume it’s informal? I will also have attire info on my linked website.

My friend who is super environmentally conscious is the person who inspired me to do this, and I’m hoping we can all one day make this shift towards zero waste without fear of people being offended over an email vs a piece of paper lol.
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