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Kate, on November 12, 2019 at 4:13 AM Posted in Planning 0 6

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We are planning a “destination” wedding for next year and getting a ton of complaints and it’s caused a lot of drama with future mother in law. The catch with this destination is that it’s where i was born and raised, so for me and my family, it’s having it at “home” despite not having lived there for 10 years. My fiancé loves where I’m from and wanted to have it there as well, so his family could see where I’m from and we could have a really sentimental wedding. Instead we’re getting complaints from one side of his family and it’s caused major fights between them and brought on a lot of abuse from his mom. I knew going into this that not everyone could go because of expenses, work etc, but being attacked by our choice is hard. Anyone experience something similar?

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Latest activity by Simone, on November 12, 2019 at 9:26 AM

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Kristen · on November 12, 2019 at 5:29 AM
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Family always causes issues. I am sure one my fh tells his mom we're eloping she and my sil may not be happy. Do what you want. Unless they're going to pay for it they have no say. It's what you two want. Maybe have a small second wedding in your state? A friend of mine and her husband got married where they met in college then had a second mono ceremony in their current state for more family and new friends.
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Marcia · on November 12, 2019 at 6:01 AM
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Have the wedding where you want to and they will either act like adults and come or act like children and miss out. If you’re happy with the location, that’s what matters.
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Cyndy · on November 12, 2019 at 8:34 AM
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I agree with the others. It’s YOUR day so have it where you want and they can come or not. So many brides plan the wedding that their family wants and they are miserable. My husband and I had a DW and decided that if people couldn’t come we didn’t care. We knew where we wanted to get married and that’s all that mattered. Be happy and just stay away from the drama.
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Erin · on November 12, 2019 at 8:59 AM
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I'm getting married where I live now, but my mom still sends me venue suggestions in Vermont. Luckily she's not malicious about it, she's just trying to be helpful. A lot of my family probably won't be able to go to my wedding because they're all on the east coast and the wedding will be in Denver which is an expensive trek for a lot of people. I know it sucks, but keep doing what you want, everyone else will either get over themselves or they won't but whatever they do that will be their decision.
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Ivy ORP · on November 12, 2019 at 9:13 AM
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As others have said, it is a day for you and your fiancé, have the wedding where you both want it. Some family members will never be happy, but if you can't look back on your day and feel happy with the details then what was the point? Outside of marrying your love of course.
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Simone · on November 12, 2019 at 9:26 AM
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Initially I had wanted to very close family members complain a little about having to fly but that only lasted for a minute or how everyone is excited. Whatever you do, don't change your plans to accommodate his family. I think people give family too much power during the planning process overall. I'm sorry you guys have to deal with this.
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