I’ve been friends with one of my bridesmaids for 4 years and her boyfriend is also good friends with my fiancé and a groomsman. My friend is bipolar and autistic and her boyfriend is also bipolar (only specifying because it may explain some things). She already bought her dress, but recently told me she’s not sure if her and her boyfriend will be able to be in my wedding party due to financial concerns. We’re only planning on going out for dinner and drinks for our bachelorette and bachelor party and only expect bridesmaids and groomsmen to pay for their own food and drinks. My fiancé made a group chat with all his groomsmen and asked when would be a good day to set up an appointment to rent tuxes. He started planning in this group chat for a month. My friend’s boyfriend’s only response at all in the group chat said that he’s only available on Friday’s. He never takes off of work, even when advance notice of an event is given so we’ve been working our schedule around his (he only works at Mavis so there’s really no reason). My brother even agreed to take off of work early to be able to make the appointment. It would’ve been easier for everyone else to make it on a weekend, but we’ve been trying to accommodate everyone. My fiancé picks a Friday and asks everyone in his group chat if they were able to make it. Everyone agreed, but my friends boyfriend read it and never responded. My friend texts me freaking out saying she’s unsure if they’ll be able to afford to attend and her boyfriend never agreed to that date because he had court for a traffic ticket. He never even privately messaged us about his court date. He read our messages when asking about the date and didn’t respond. We assumed he was available on Fridays unless otherwise specified. My friend then proceeds to guilt trip me saying that it’s a slap in the face that we made this appointment when she doesn’t know if they’ll be able to afford to attend and he has court. I told her I’d love to help, but we really can’t afford to because we’re just scraping by paying for the wedding and our own bills. I said the most I could do is pay for his deposit or let her borrow the money until she has it. She didn’t like the idea of borrowing money saying she’s unsure if she’ll be able to pay it back and she basically said that I’m not being a good friend because I should just pay for her boyfriend’s tux. I’m not paying for anyone else’s tux and she’s not even my maid of honor. Eventually her boyfriend replies to my fiancé saying he’s able to make our original planned date when we offered to change it. Then he doesn’t show up to the appointment and doesn’t even call or text to say he’s unable to make it. Dump them or give them one more chance?
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