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Just Said Yes August 2020

Dry Wedding

Sadie, on June 17, 2019 at 10:49 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 19

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So, my fiancé and I have decided to have a dry wedding for multiple reasons. Many people on my mom's side of the family can't control themselves around alcohol and either end up throwing up or threatening to kill each other and some people on both sides are recovering alcoholics so I didn't want the option even there. Honestly, I don't want to deal with the drama alcohol brings when my mom's side does get drunk. Do we let people know it is a dry wedding? If so, do we put it on the save the dates, the invitations, or on our wedding website? Or is it not that big of a deal and I'm just overthinking this like everything else lol

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Latest activity by Colleen, on August 17, 2019 at 10:16 PM

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Emily · on June 17, 2019 at 10:53 AM
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I don't think you have to put it on your invitations. If they show up and you are not serving alcohol, they will get the point. If you put on your invites that it is a dry wedding, some might think that they can bring it with them.
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Caytlyn · on June 17, 2019 at 10:55 AM
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You don't need to notify people. If you feel like it's necessary, mention it on your website.
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Gen · on June 17, 2019 at 10:56 AM
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I wouldn't notify anyone, that is just asking for people to complain in advance! Let them find out when they get there, and hopefully they'll be so full of love and gratitude for you guys that they won't care as much!
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LB · on June 17, 2019 at 10:57 AM
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I wouldn't put it on an invite or STD. If you have a FAQ section of your website you could put it there, but not a necessity. I think it's more necessary to let people know it's a cash bar (so they can bring money) than a dry wedding.
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Mcskipper · on June 17, 2019 at 10:57 AM
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To be honest if you’re talking about people who can’t control themselves with alcohol, I think advance notice that it would be a dry wedding would have the opposite effect you’re hoping for— id be concerned that knowing that, these people would become more likely to bring their own, pre-drink, or carry a flask
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Kelly · on June 17, 2019 at 11:00 AM
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Don't! Don't tell anyone.
The only person who knows I'm having a dry wedding is my parents. And it's dry for similar reasons. It's not worth the headache.
It's a wedding not a rager they will survive the night.
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Lauren · on June 17, 2019 at 11:12 AM
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We're having a dry wedding, and the only people that really know are our families and people if they've asked. Neither one of our families drink, our venue is in a dry county, and FH and I only have a glass of wine every so often so we didn't mind having a dry wedding. Most of the people coming don't drink either so it won't be a big deal for most people. I would just let people find out when they get there!
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MrsD · on June 17, 2019 at 11:30 AM
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I would mention it on the FAQs on the wedding website, but nowhere else.
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Danielle · on June 17, 2019 at 12:15 PM
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You should put it on there...but believe it or not if they want it they will find the near store...
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Melle · on June 17, 2019 at 12:33 PM
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It's ok not to mention it. it's one of those things people expect but can totally live without.
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W-K · on June 17, 2019 at 2:09 PM
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I wouldn't mention it to anyone. We're having a dry wedding as well due to our location (our church). We're not planning on mentioning it anywhere.
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Sadie · on June 17, 2019 at 2:11 PM
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You're right! I didn't even think of that. Thank you!
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Sadie · on June 17, 2019 at 2:13 PM
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Thank you everyone! I appreciate the advice! I definitely won't put it on the invitations but maybe as a FAQ on the website. I will think about it!
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MIWM · on June 17, 2019 at 2:53 PM
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Nothing wrong with a dry wedding. You do not have to let people know about it either.
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Holly · on June 17, 2019 at 3:45 PM
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Exactly as PP's have said. Don't say anything. I have a similar family situation. My FH and I love to entertain but it definitely gets old after millions of times having to rein someone in or clean up a mess, stop a fight, etc. They will automatically assume there will be booze there and when they find out there isn't, it will be too late to "make a stop". Best wishes
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Sare · on July 6, 2019 at 11:57 AM
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Honestly, I think its not a big deal and you don't have to tell anyone. People are coming to celebrate YOU, not to get drunk. If you put it, some guests might sneak alcohol into the wedding. I think it's a great idea to have a dry wedding and not at all necessary.
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Sinéad · on August 16, 2019 at 9:31 AM
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Hi Sadie! Did you decide to put is info on your website?
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Renay · on August 16, 2019 at 10:17 AM
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I am so happy to see another bride doing a dry wedding. Every post I see seems to berate people for not serving alcohol. Our wedding will be dry for very similar reasons. We have some family members that I don't like when they drink, we have a good portion of church family in attendance, and we don't drink much/often. I think it would be SO stressful for me if there was alcohol. Last thing I want is to have to deal with drunks on my day.
I told the venue when we toured and the owner was so happy. He said they have about 3 a year that are dry and they are the best, easy going, happy weddings,
The bridal party knows, and a handful of our other guests know, but only because they've asked. I am not going to put it on the invites for fear that some may get drunk before, bring it with them, or just not come.
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Colleen · on August 17, 2019 at 10:16 PM
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I would put it on website. I do not care if A Wedding is dry. Not would I get drunk at a wedding. I drink pretty rare. However if I was looking forward to have a glass or 2 of whine at a wedding and it was dry I would be a bit upset, if I knew ahead it was a dry wedding I would have the few glasses the week before.
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