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Cameron
Savvy July 2020

Dry Wedding Concerns

Cameron, on September 10, 2019 at 5:53 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12
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So my FH and I decided right off the bat to have a dry wedding for numerous reasons. We weren’t planning on putting that information in the website or invites but our new venue has a SUPER strict policy on bringing in outside food/drinks. As in, if anyone does WE get fined (alot of $$&dollarSmiley winking. Which makes sense and this wouldn’t be an issue to most people. However, my FH’s brother got married earlier this year and had a specifically dry wedding as well and it was awful. One of the guests literally brought a bar’s worth of alcohol with him in his truck (every possible alcohol you can think of) and have it away for free to anyone at the wedding. Additionally around 10 of the other guests brought their own small wine bottles to spike their sodas...including the grooms extended family members. All of the “offenders” are also invited to our wedding and I’m getting MEGA stressed that they will do it again, even if we specifically tell only them not to.

Any advice??

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Latest activity by Alisha, on September 12, 2019 at 6:11 PM
  • Allaura
    Devoted April 2021
    Allaura ·
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    Put it on your website that there is a fine from the venue for this kind of behavior. 🤷🏽‍♀️ Also I’d set aside some money for a fine just in case.
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  • JEANIE
    Expert April 2021
    JEANIE ·
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    I agree with Allaura. You should definitely state this on the website and include a statement about the fine. Also, because you know that there are offenders coming, I would be prepared with the fine money. Hopefully with the advanced warning you don't run into that situation. Good luck
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  • Jocelyn
    Devoted December 2019
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    I would put out a message highly advising guest not to try to bring in any alcohol to the wedding. Maybe even putting in the message if anyone is seen doing so and a fine is charge to you guys that the bill will be sent to those seen with alcohol. Good luck

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  • Liz
    Devoted June 2021
    Liz ·
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    I feel like your always going to have people trying to sneak it in. They’ll be running out to the parking lot every 5 minutes. Good luck though, I have no advice except if you really believe your going to have offenders and you’ll get fined maybe offer beer and wine.
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  • G
    Dedicated June 2020
    Gabby ·
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    I would make them pay the fine.
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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
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    It’s important to communicate it is a dry wedding if you risk getting a fine.

    Also, if your family isn’t likely to check the wedding website spread it by word of mouth. This is one of those times that you don’t surprise people into a dry wedding.

    When i attend dry weddings I almost always bring nips with me. If you made it evident that you’d get in trouble for me bringing alcohol I would just make alternate plans
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  • Keri
    Expert November 2019
    Keri ·
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    Unfortunately people will do this regardless. I hope that you explain how you will be fined if they bring any alcohol in and that deters them. Would you be fined if it was consumed in the parking lot? Even weddings with alcohol people do this.
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  • Jess
    Expert October 2019
    Jess ·
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    Put it somewhere on the website. we’re also having a dry wedding and if anyone breaks that request then they will be asked to leave.
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  • C
    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    I’m going to go against what everyone has said. If they knew BIL wedding was dry and brought booze, then it makes sense to NOT tell them it will be a dry wedding. Stress on the website/in person that there will be a fee for outside food and drink brought in, but don’t tell them you won’t be providing alcohol. I think that will just give them more reason to bring it. If they ask simply tell them that you will be properly hosting your guests. (Which I’m assuming you are by providing a meal and other non alcoholic beverages).
    Then if they bring it have them reimburse you the fine.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I would put it on your wedding website. You still won't be able to control guests so if a lot of your guests prefer to have alcohol at weddings, I'd just save money for the fine and assume it will happen.

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  • Courtney
    Master December 2019
    Courtney ·
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    Absolutely put this on your website. I would also add in something along the lines of those guests being responsible for the fine and will be asked to leave the premises immediately.

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  • Alisha
    VIP April 2021
    Alisha ·
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    I would state it on the wedding website and let them know if they bring any alcohol to the wedding they will be responsible for the fine. Good Luck.

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