As some of you may remember from some of my previous posts, one of my FH’s brothers has a drug addiction. No one on either side of our family has ever had any sort of drug addiction whatsoever so it’s very hard for us to even know where to begin with helping him. We’ve spent those 2AM nights with him trying to get him admitted into a psychiatric facility in our state, but he is never willing to stay and in our state if the person is not willing then they cannot be forced to stay and it’s very difficult to get a court mandate to force him to stay.
He has a virtual court session today. FFIL has spent so much time effort and money trying to help his son. Although at times he is an enabler. I found an in patient facility in Florida because I feel like if he stays in our state he will just meet more people with drug addictions in the facility and it just won’t work out very well. It’s happened before where he’s met people in outpatient and instead of trying to get better he’s only used them as more ‘connects’. but the facility in Florida is super expensive and although my FH makes good money, It’s still way too much for us as we have the wedding, want to get a house after the wedding, and we want to have kids right after the wedding. I’m certainly not choosing my happiness over my FBILs survival but I feel like even if we did go on a payment plan and throw him in the facility, it would probably be a waste of money and I don’t believe he would actually stay in there.
My FH isn’t as willing to help his brother anymore but I’m worried about the end results of us just giving up.
Has anyone had to deal with a family members drug addiction? Did they ever recover? If so what did they do? What can we do?