Driving and who should do it

I’ve never heard of wedding party members driving the bride or groom to pre-wedding events. I could see being driven or arranging for sober transportation for a bachelor/bachelorette (party bus, Uber, etc.) but not to other events.

Most of the weddings Ive been a part of the she drove herself to the bridal shower as far as the bachelorette party that really just kinda depends on the group.

I mean, you can ask who might be interested in car pooling, but I would not expect people to drive me just because I’m the bride. If you’re worried about needing sober transportation then I would arrange that on your own (Uber, Lyft, etc) or if you have a friend who is sober and ask to car pool with them.

Drive yourself or get a car service

Wait, what is the situation? The way I read it, you invited the Bridal party, you're all planning on traveling together, but no one has offered to drive so you have to pick everyone up? If that's it, then I would ask if the others would like to take turns driving, so one person (i.e. you) doesn't get stuck with all the driving.

Or, are you asking if someone should be picking you up? If that's it, as PPs said, the Bride/Groom usually drives themselves.

If you would rather not drive, then ask someone if you can ride with them. But yes, you are responsible for your own transportation.

You should plan to transport yourself to events, yes. I’m not sure why chauffeuring would be a bridesmaid duty. If you don’t want to drive, arrange for a car service. If you want to carpool, talk to the girls about that. Where everyone is coming from and going to makes a difference here too, as it’s all in the logistics. There certainly doesn’t exist a standard or expectation for this. We provided transport for many things due to logistics (drop off and pick up from the salon getting ready before the wedding— we had a shuttle for after the wedding, so it didn’t make any sense for my girls to arrive with their own cars). My husband drove 2 of my bridesmaids to the bridal shower weekend bc it was out of town/ where I am from, so since they were willing to travel, we brought them with us and had them stay with us.

Yeah, unless you live super close to your bridal party and they want to carpool, you should be driving yourself. I was just in a wedding where the bride expected someone to go out of their way to pick her up for the bachelorette when she lived close and the rest of us had 2-4 hour drives. That ruffled a lot of feathers. If you're in a situation where people might want to carpool and can then there's no harm in asking if anyone wants to, but don't expect them to chauffeur you anywhere.

I've never heard of wedding party members being required to drive the couple anywhere. Everyone can either drive themselves or meet up and carpool. But it is no one's responsibility to drive anyone anywhere.

I don’t think the wedding party are obligated to drive you. Just grab a cab or Uber.