Dressing the men

I just want to warn you that I've heard MW has a very limited selection of actual suits. We went to a local tux shop and they had a very casual style tux that looked very close to a suit in the grey shades that FH wanted. Just want you to keep an open mind!

FH plans to wear light grey with the groomsmen, and our dads will wear the matching tux in darker grey. They may also do varying shades of blue for the ties depending on what colors are available.

So here's what I would maybe do:

Groom can do whatever he wants because he's the groom haha.

Groomsmen: The same color family suit that coordinates to the groom. But if it's not the same suit as the groom's, don't try to fake it because it'll be noticeable. For example, if groom wants to personally wear charcoal then put all of the groomsmen in a dove or medium grey and then they can all wear the same tie as groom.

Dads: I would put in a different shade of suit from the groomsmen/groom, and then see if I can find a tie in the same color but maybe with a pattern on it like a subtle paisley or something.

Option one for the ushers: Ushers would have same suit as groomsmen with a different color tie, or groomsmen could wear a vest plus tie, and ushers only a tie no vest to differentiate the two roles but keep them all as "bridal party".

Option two for the ushers: Since the ushers are your brothers you could also have them in the same suit as your dad but the tie match the groomsmen/groom. Hope that all made sense.

We went with tuxes from men's wearhouse but it basically looks like a suit. Just fancier buttons lol. My dad, the groom, and the best man (only groomsman) are all wearing the same tux in black and the same white shirt under it. They will all have different color vests and ties. Best man is coordinating with the bridesmaids color, dad is wearing a black and grey vest and tie (what our salesperson suggested) and the groom coordinates with me. They are all wearing the same vest, just different colors so it still coordinates.

Following! I’m also trying to decide if the dads and ushers (my brothers) should wear something similar to the groomsman? Our groomsman are just doing vests though, no jacket and i think my dad wants to wear a jacket. I can’t decide if they should match or just wear whatever hey want!

If the men are all just wearing suits, do the Dads already own a suit they can wear? If so, there is no need for them to rent a different suit. The dads are not part of the wedding party. Men's suits are all neutrals so there isn't a possibility that their suit would clash.

The groom can wear whatever he wants. He needn't match with anyone, just as the bride isn't matching her dress to anyone on her side.

You could use the same suit for the ushers, and have them wear a colored shirt- not a solid, a small check would be perfect.

grey suits

more grey suits

check shirt

Here is what we are doing, in case it inspires. All of the Tuxes are the same tux, same color. The only thing we are changing is the tie and pocket square.
Groom will have white tie, white pocket square.
Groomsmen will have black tie, pink pocket square (match bridesmaid dresses).
Fathers will have black tie, white pocket square (neutral, match both bridal party and whatever mothers wear).

Also, groom can wear whatever he wants, just make sure it compliments the rest of the men.

Hopping onto this thread... we just picked out the tuxes for the groom and all of the men in the wedding party. We did NOT include FOB or SFOB - and now I'm wondering if we should have? I don't want them matching each other (that just seems weird to me) but I'd like them to be similar to the wedding party so they

This is what we chose...

Groom = black tux, purple vest, light purple tie, matching pocket square

Groomsman = grey tux, light purple vest, purple tie, matching pocket square

Ushers (future stepsons) = same as groomsman, but with purple bow tie

... and then we forgot FOB/SFOB (neither of them have tuxes)