Dress Shopping

YES. THIS. I'm honestly thinking about going by myself next time too. I feel the same way, no one has to love it but you and your fiance!

View Quoted Comment Do it! It was so relaxing to just focus on myself ❤️

I love this!! I was way to nervous to do this so I took only the ones I knew I would be able to handle with me. I took my mom, FMIL, and FSIL. MOH couldn’t make it otherwise she would have been there as well. It was the perfect mix of what I needed. They were all honest but they were all watching my facial expressions too so they knew just what I was thinking and gave opinions based on that too. If I would have taken my entire bridal party it would have Ben way way way to many options and I wouldn’t have ended up with the dress I have and love right now.

View Quoted Comment I had a great experience, but I will probably be able to think a lot more clearly when I'm not focused on what my mom will think. 😅 I didn't realize this until you said it, but there really is this unspoken hope/pressure in the air that the next dress could be the one. I think next time I won't try to put on a show for people and just focus on how I feel about the dress.

View Quoted Comment I’m glad you had such a good experience! Sounds like you an excellent group too 🙂

I went dress shopping with just my mom and dad and it was the best decision I could have made during the dress shopping experience (besides saying yes, of course!). I knew I didn’t want all the opinions of everyone else that really didn’t know exactly how I was feeling. I loved having my parents opinion only and sharing that special moment with 2 of the most important people in my life.

Awe :,) that line “ The last thing I want is being talked out of something I love again” totally relate. The whole wedding planning process has had everyone excited which is good but also has everyone wanting to stick their heads in at every point and share an opinion. I am affected very easily by others opinions so this might be the route I take. Thank you for sharing 💕

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I did most of my shopping by myself. My entourage was small but I still preferred it being just me & the consultant. I sent pics after I bought it to my mom & friend who cheered by text. 😁

I went shopping by myself twice, and I think I shot myself in the foot by showing my mom pictures the first time so she and my sis would talk me into the dress. And if I was still that weight, it might be my dress. But when I went back after losing weigh I also went by myself. It was nice to just pick what I wanted without worrying what anyone else was thinking.

That's so awesome! Good for you! I also thought about going by myself, but I ended up taking my bridesmaids because I wanted to share the experience with them. I couldn't have asked for better girls to have with me (or to have in my life honestly.) We looked at dresses online before we went the first time so that they could get a good idea of what I like. My matron of honor even printed out pictures so that we could find the dresses in store. Then every dress I came out in they didn't say anything. They waited to hear my thoughts and then would tell me what they thought. They didn't want to make me like something I didn't truly love just because they liked it. At the second shop we went to I found my dress. I couldn't be happier and when we walked out they said to me that they would never call me an idiot but if I was to have left without that dress, I was an idiot lol

I only went with my mother, and it was a lot less stress for sure.

I almost bought I dress that I loved but knew deep down wasn’t the only one because of the opinions of everyone around me. The next tome I went dress shopping I brought my soon to be sister in law and one of my closest friends. It was less opinions and I actually found one I loved even more and actually made me cry.

I went on my own, too! It was the best decision I could have made. Then I took FMIL, one bridesmaid, and my mom to the 2nd "try on", even though I'd picked the dress I loved. It all turned out OK. I've ended up losing some weight since then and when I tried my dress on for alterations this month, I hated how it looked on me. Even with the pins and all the altering mocked up, I just didn't like what I saw in the mirror. My body has changed and even though I know nobody else would notice the little things I could see, I didn't feel comfortable at all.

I ended up taking my dress back last week and exchanging it for something else I love even more!! I didn't tell ANYONE. They will all be surprised on the day of the wedding.

I truly do believe these shows, like Say Yes to the Dress, etc., have really set us up for failure sometimes. I do NOT crave the drama of negative opinions and crazy reactions from others, especially not for something as personal as the dress I know that myself and my FH will love. I'm excited to get dressed up and I'm most excited for him to see me, and to see him dressed up, too. I do not care what my wedding party thinks, or my guests. It's not their wedding. It's mine.

You know what will make you happiest, so your opinion is the one that really matters the most. I was alone when I bought my dress. Granted that was mostly because I was taking advantage of an opportunity to find a free dress for LEO/military and their future spouses, and none of my bridesmaids were available (I had to go on a weekday and took the afternoon off from work for it).

View Quoted Comment I LOVE this! ❤️ Thank you for sharing! So glad you found the dress of your dreams 🙂

Awww this made me tear up!!! Same here though. Everyone had different opinions and styles and we need to find OUR style and what WE love in the dress. And just the fact that we love it and feel confident in it will be enough for our significant other to love it too.

View Quoted Comment Same here! Especially with the venue! At first I had my heart set on a ranch/barn style wedding...then airbnb.. then a little mix of both...but that's all going out the window because everyone has opinions about money and the venue and this and that and makes little comments about how this is too expensive (when its actually cheap 😑) etc etc. Like my dad the other day "if it were me I'd just get everyone pizza instead of catering and call it a day." Or "just remember you're going to want to save money for after the wedding" when the venue is like 1k 🙄...he basically wants me to have the wedding in an alley lol. He doesnt understand how expensive weddings are and how much money I'm already TRYING to save. And then of course my moms taste is ththe exact opposite of mine. Just super frustrating.