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Dress Shopping

Kevin, on December 12, 2019 at 2:00 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 10
So I have been to way to many dress stores. I went shopping with my mom and my FMIL and we went to two stores and it was awful. They are both very opinionated, I’m very self conscious and I want a plain dress with no lace or beading or anything. I went to 13 more stores with just my mom and tried on just a handful of dresses with no luck. One store had a dress I liked but didn’t love but the shop owner was having another dress just like it but with a few changes I liked that was coming. It just arrived and I’m not sure if I should bring my mom and Fmil to try it on with me or not. I already have an appointment with the both of them coming in a few weeks. Should I go by myself and try it on without them. This just may be my dress and I’m excited but they have already kinda ruined the whole shopping experience for me. I don’t want to hurt their feelings though. Help!!

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Latest activity by Pirate & 60s Bride, on December 17, 2019 at 1:52 PM
  • L
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    OMG go by yourself. That was the best thing I ever did when I was engaged. I found a shop I liked, had one appointment alone and picked out about 6 dresses that I REALLY REALLY liked. Then I invited my mom and grandma to come a week later and only showed them those 6 dresses. It was way less stressful.

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  • Aimee
    Super July 2021
    Aimee ·
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    Do you have anyone like a friend or bridesmaid to go with you for support? Or if you don’t mind, try it on alone and see if it evokes the same feeling without distractions.
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  • Vannesa
    Expert October 2021
    Vannesa ·
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    To be honest you've already included them in the experience the first couple times and if they are ruining it for you I'd go by myself. If there are none that you like but you love certain things about certain dresses you can also go to Anomalie and talk to a consultant about designing your own within your budget

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  • Katie
    Devoted March 2019
    Katie ·
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    When my best friend was engaged and dress shopping, she was in a similar situation with her mother. Her and I snuck off and went to try on a few dresses in a separate appointment and then when the appointment with her mom came, the consultant and I were already aware that this was *the one*.


    In this scenario, the consultant was able to step in immediately and ask what my friend thought, and when her mom saw how much she loved the dress and said it felt like her dress, she couldn't say a cross word, and I was there as back up with the consultant gushing, complimenting, aka steering the appointment the direction the bride wanted!


    Enlist in one of these friends for yourself, or have a heart to heart with the consultant and tell her that you feel like this is your dress (if it ultimately is) but that you worry about over opinionated parents. They see this all the time and will definitely be able to step in and make sure the appointment stays positive! YOU GOT THIS GIRL!

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  • V
    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I would definitely go without them. Could a friend or bridesmaid go with you instead?
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  • Amber
    Super September 2020
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    Go by yourself and if you love it girl buy it. If its the one you could video chat each of them but I would tell them its your dress.
    I found my dress with my mom but she ruined it so I left the store without purchasing but I went back the next day and said yes to it and I had my fmil with me. She's the best💗


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    Expert October 2020
    Katie ·
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    This is almost identical to what I did except I had my mom, stepdad and FMIL when I went back after going alone. I can honestly say I hate shopping and am very self conscious so going by myself made it very less stressful. I agree and you should go by yourself and stay true to what you want. Hopefully if they see you truly love it then hopefully they will as well. Good Luck!!
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Totally fine to go yourself. I did two trips with my mom & a friend, but a bunch more by myself. Ultimately found the dress on my own and texted pics to friends & mom who “clapped” and gave it a thumbs up.
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  • Kevin
    Super October 2021
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    Thanks for all your advice and words of encouragement! I ended up going shopping with best friend and bridesmaid. I absolutely loved the dress and it was so nice to not have any opinions or pressure. I’m going back after Christmas to buy it with my mom and fmil ! And let them see it .
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    You’re welcome. ❤️ Oh that’s wonderful!!! Glad you’re confident in your decision and your mom/FMIL will LOVE being there to share your “say yes to the dress” moment. 🍾
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