My FH and I are from different countries. Currently, we live in his country, but the wedding will be back at my home state next spring, April 2020.
I don't have any friends or family here. My FMIL lives in another part of the country. My mom is possibly going to be visiting in October. I would love to go wedding dress shopping with her, but I'm afraid of waiting that long and not having enough time for alterations. But the idea of shopping alone makes me kinda sad.
A dress can take 6-9 months to come in once you order it. Go now by yourself to several stores. You *might* be able to order it when she visits but I would feel safer ordering it before then to make sure it arrives in plenty of time and you won’t need to pay a rush fee for shipping or alterations. Then take your mom to the store where you buy it to show her, take photos together, drink champagne and say “yes” again with her. I did that! Super fun.
I only went went shopping with my mom & sister once because they live far and I preferred shopping myself. The consultants should be nice & not pushy. Ask them to take pics of you in dresses you like to show your mom (and any friends back home). When I found the one I texted pics to my mom & friend who exclaimed “that’s it!” which was fun.
I went to several shops and nearly all the bridal consultants were really nice! They respected my budget, educated me on wedding dresses & showed me alteration options. Bring water because trying on dresses makes you thirsty.
I'd opt for an online vendor like Azazie. I tell everyone to use them. I had such a wonderful experience with them, my dress is amazing, high quality and so well made, I was able to try on multiple styles at home, and then when I picked my dress, I ordered custom sizing (so literally the only alteration I needed was a bustle). My dress (the "Honey" in diamond white) was $415. Looks like I easily paid 4x that much. The timeline to make it was much, much shorter than standard boutique dresses, with much less stress.
Here's what I would do if I were you - Pick your favorite styles, take your measurements, and have those samples shipped to you for the date of your mom's visit in October. (I recommend 1 size down from the standard size you get via measurements). If you need help coordinating the timing, Azazie customer service is extremely helpful.
Doing that in October means you will ABSOLUTELY have time to order a custom sized dress. You will have months of extra time, a beautifully made dress that arrives fitting your measurements, less stress, and more money in your bank account
I had a little party at home just like that, I invited my MOH, mom, step mom, FMIL, and we had cake samples, wine, and they helped me try on a few styles, all at home. It was perfect
I agree that you should definitely not wait until October to go. I ordered my dress in October and it didn’t even come in until April. I would go in your area and FaceTime or Skype your mom or friends while you are trying them on. My sister did that when she went shopping as I was in the hospital. It was nice to see even if I couldn’t be there.