Kristin
Devoted December 2021

Dress regret

Kristin, on February 14, 2021 at 9:19 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 19
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I’m sure I have nothing to worry about, but at the same time I can’t help but think I got the wrong dress. When I look at photos from other weddings at my venue all the brides have this grand dress. When shopping there was no “oh my god this is it” moment. I only brought my mom with me and she didn’t react how I was expecting. I tried on about 15 dresses of all different styles and went with this one which was one I had picked from the website before my appointment. I’m not super girly so I know my FH will be happy to see me in a dress in general. Idk I guess just seeing everyone else in grand beautiful dresses I feel mine isn’t “bridal” enough?
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Any thoughts? Should I find something with more of a train or more grand?

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Latest activity by Aiste, on February 15, 2021 at 6:08 PM
  • Samantha
    Rockstar October 2022
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    I think it’s lovely and you have great arms and back for it!
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  • Gabby
    Savvy March 2021
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    First things first I love your dress!! The lace is so soft and pretty and very romantic. I’m a sucker for open backs.


    Dress shopping can be hard but it’s really what you want to get out of it, and what’s important to you. Are you wanting the very emotional reactions? Are you wanting the “this is the one” moment? Are you regretting the decision because you genuinely don’t like the dress OR because of other brides you have seen? The number one advice I’ve taken to heart from wedding planning is once you make a decision; stop shopping. There will always be grander weddings in general not just on dresses there will always be different styles and more elaborate details BUT this is about your wants and needs. I felt the same way about my photographer she has very beautiful work and we ultimately chose her due to that fact that she was more affordable ... though she wasn’t cheap. Looking back her work is just not my style HOWEVER I know our pictures will be amazing and I just had to stop comparing.
    You look very beautiful, and I love your dress. The question you have to ask yourself is how you feel in it and is this what you want? Do you truly love it; can you envision walking down the aisle feeling your most beautiful self in this dress?
    With my dress I feel so unimaginably giddy thinking about it I’m excited, and emotional because I know I made the right decision it was what I was truly looking for. My dress is in alterations right now but every time I get a fitting I’m so anxious to be in the presence of my dress. And even when I had my dress home with me for the short time it was here before alterations I would go into the closet just to touch it and admire it. That’s exactly how I wanted to feel Smiley smile
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  • Molly
    Expert May 2022
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    That is a nice dress and it looks great on you! If you are having dress regret you can keep looking around until you find the OMG dress. If you want a statement without a new dress, you can always add a cathedral veil to complete your look without having to purchase another dress.

    Below are some examples:

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    I also never had that OMG this is the dress moment either. I was torn between 2 dresses, but none of them checked every single box I wanted. I did purchased one dress and trying to decide if I should make alterations to make it the preferect dress, or if I should also purchase the other dress and wear it as a reception dress.

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  • Sharon
    Super September 2021
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    The most important question is how do you feel in it? It doesn't matter what other brides wore in your venue. Do you feel beautiful in it? Comfortable? Can you see yourself marrying your fiance in it? Does it make you happy? At the end of the day that's all that matters. Your wedding dress should feel true to you, who you are. Not what others expect.
    That being said, you look fabulous in that dress!
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
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    Don’t find a dress that you think suits the venue if YOU don’t feel the dress suits you!
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
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    Your dress is gorgeous & shows off your figure so beautifully! As previously mentioned, your accessories will knock it out of the park!
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  • whirlwind
    Devoted March 2021
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    I think with your hair and make-up done, with a veil and jewelery it will look very bridal. The dress fits you very well and is beautiful.

    How do you feel in it? Do you feel beautiful?

    My dress is an A-Line and sometimes when I look at pictures of other gowns I wonder if I should have chosen a fuller skirt, maybe a ballgown since they look so beautiful on other girls plus this is probably the only time in life that I could wear a ballgown dress. But then I remember the one ballgown I tried on in the shop. It was a stunning dress and fit great but it was so not me. I felt uncomfortable the second I put it on. It was so heavy and I had no idea how to walk in it. I felt I was drowing in all the fabric (and I am not a small girl!). No way I would want to wear something like that on my wedding dress. I love how my dress feels and how it looks. Does it measure up to some other girl's princess-dream-wedding? No. But it's me. If your dress is you and makes you happy and you feel comfortable and beautiful - keep it! Plus, I definitely think it is a benefit when you can walk and sit and dance in your dress comfortably and you can pee in it without help. lol. So, stop comparing yourseld. You will look beautiful. And on your wedding day you will be the only bride there. Everyone will think you look amazing.

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  • M
    Savvy August 2022
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    Do you love your dress though?


    I see what you mean about it- if I’m honest it doesn’t really flatter you. Maybe because it’s unaltered? It looks so lose? I think something more fitted around the waist would look great! Also not a fan of the boob pleats. Sorry if I’m harsh!! I think plain dresses are so lovely but only if they fit the bride really well.
    My personal favourite look is a plain satin fitted dress with a cathedral veil. So timeless and elegant!
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  • Kristin
    Devoted December 2021
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    The open back is definitely what got me to like it. The way you described how you feel about your dress is how I want to feel about mine. I’m not sure if it’s the dress itself or just my indecisiveness that’s truly getting to me. I have stopped looking at websites and such but when my venue posts stories with brides I notice that nobody has anything as simple as mine. It makes me wonder if it fits the venue.
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
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    You mentioned that you’re not “girly”. So does a grand and glamorous dress appeal to you? Would you feel comfortable? And, most of all, would it be YOU and YOUR style? As the saying goes... “comparison is the thief of joy”
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  • Kristin
    Devoted December 2021
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    It was the dress I felt most comfortable in out of all the dresses I tried on. I’m a fish out of water in dresses so I think the fact that I could walk and it wasn’t super heavy were major reasons I chose this dress. I like, but I don’t love it. I didn’t feel beautiful in anything but I know my FH will love me in whatever (he even told me to get a jumpsuit if that’s what I felt more comfortable in).
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  • Kristin
    Devoted December 2021
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    First off, I respect your truth and your opinion.


    However, it’s severely misplaced. I don’t think it’s appropriate to come on a forum where someone is already feeling off and tearing them down more. I was asking for thoughts on if I should get something more grand, not if the dress looked good on me. I know it will fit beautifully after being altered. In any forum on here with brides in potential dresses the dress is not a perfect fit and that’s something to keep in mind while looking at photos. It also feels as though much of your negativity is because it isn’t a dress style YOU prefer.
    In the future to avoid hurting a bride that may not have as much thick skin as me maybe keep your comments to yourself if they aren’t nice or what the bride is asking for. Thanks.
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  • Kristin
    Devoted December 2021
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    Oh my goodness I didn’t even think about the peeing thing! lol that’s hilarious. I know I wouldn’t have wanted a fuller skirt. It came down to 2 dresses for me and the other had a nice train with a little lace in it and seemed a bit more bridal. I only didn’t get it because it was too heavy (but it was also 12 sizes too big) and I just keep thinking about if I made the right choice.
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  • M
    Savvy August 2022
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    Hence why I mentioned that it might fit better once altered. If you love the dress then what others think doesn’t really matter as long as you feel like a beautiful bride in it. Sorry if my comment hurt you.
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  • Gabby
    Savvy March 2021
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    I understand completely, but I also think that stems from expectations of that’s how we’re supposed to feel and I agree it is HOWEVER I’ve had my dress for mmmm about 11 months now. I bought it last year in March it arrived in October and it’s been in alterations since December. The day I had the dress on my body I didn’t even know it was my dress I loved it and it was beautiful but I went home unsure. For me it was mostly because I tried on 10 dresses and I had the fear of what if there’s something better. But when I got my dress and the perfect shoes, the perfect veil, did the hair and makeup bridal trial, the jewelry I started to actually picture myself as a bride instead of someone who just bought a wedding dress. For me the feeling comes from knowing that I love my fiancé and THIS is the outfit I get to say I do in.... it’s not even about the dress. It sounds like this dress is you and comfort is important and you will be radiant no matter what because this is your day and your glow!! Keep glowing. But I’m not opposed to more dress shopping just to ease your mind who knows maybe you might find a dress that suits you better 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

    But I agree with molly a feel a cathedral veil would be stunning!! It would add a wow factor and they’re so pretty. Naturally I didn’t even care about a veil I was like I’ll just wear whatever but when I actually tried on veils I was like nope I want a cathedral and it’s perfect and it makes me dress more perfect!!
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    Oh goodness, if you saw my dress then you would DEFINITELY think mine's doesn't look bridal lol. The dress looks great on you!
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  • Kristin
    Devoted December 2021
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    Thank you so much! You definitely put my mind at ease. Hopefully when everything comes together l’ll feel “bridally”. I hadn’t considered a veil, I just figured I would put a few flowers in my hair (we’re getting married in a botanical garden kinda). I’ll definitely check out some veils now when I go for alterations. At the end of the day I’m just excited to spend the day celebrating our love with our families.
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  • Sam
    Devoted October 2021
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    I can relate to you 1000%. I too bought a dress from David’s Bridal VERY similar to yours. On my drive home with my mom (along with the dress) I started having HORRIBLE dress regret and just kept thinking it didn’t “wow” me enough. I tossed and turned all night,which sounds crazy bc I NEVER thought I would be so bothered by a dress-my personality is extremely laid back/go with the flow... so I knew this was serious and I had made the wrong choice! There was another dress at David’s Bridal I tried on and loved but didn’t care for the neckline. ( not thinking oh I could just alter the top) luckily David’s Bridal has a great exchange/return policy.... needless to say I went back two days later and bought the other dress! I’m 1000% happy I did! Go with your gut! It looks like you are at a David’s Bridal... if you are within the return/exchange window do it! Good luck to you!
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  • Aiste
    Just Said Yes June 2021
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    Agree, if you need an accent, i would just add a veil.
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