Dress Regret
TLDR: I bought an extravagant wedding gown and regret it. It is GORGEOUS but I want something lighter and simpler. Anyone have advice on where to sell (or want to buy)?
Hi all!I feel silly posting this but I could really use some words of affirmation. My partner and I are having a small, intimate wedding. We initially planned to elope in a forest but after deciding to include some family, we are having the wedding at a small church in Seattle. Wedding is in 6 months. A month ago, I bought a pronovias ballgown which they told me was valued at $4000 for $1700 --- in the moment I felt I would never find such a great deal again and I should go for it as I felt beautiful (I later came home to realize I could have found it anywhere online for $2400). They also pressured me into buying a veil for $300 by telling me the veil was worth $600. I didn't even want a veil but I fell for it in the moment. I wanted a modest neckline and longsleeves and after an exhausting day I was elated at finally finding anything fitting this critera, so I wasn't thinking straight.
I felt all consuming regret and couldn't sleep because of anxiety within hours of purchasing. In hindsight I find it a poor match for me as the dress is HUGE, very hot and very heavy and I'm worried about feeling confined and claustraphobic on my wedding day. It also has a train and I worry about feeling burdened and unable to move freely. I felt a lot of pressure to buy it so I don't think I made the decision with a clear mind, and there is no refund at the boutique. Can I sell? It's still unaltered.
A little context: I honestly don't care that much about my gown as I do the marriage and enjoying time with my loved ones without distraction. I wish I had taken my time and found a cheaper, lighter weight gown I can move freely in. I keep agonizing over the amount of money this dress was and everything else I could have done with it.. I've lost many nights of sleep over this. Also, the lighting in the church is very dim and we are not getting photos outside of the wedding day so I feel the dress is not very important. I'm not in debt and I still have savings, just wishing I could get the money back as I'm tired of this regret keeping me from focusing on the joy of this special season. Please send suggestions. Much love to you all.
Photos of dress on a model and then on me in case anyone wants to buy. LOL.
