Katelyn
Savvy May 2021

Dress Regret...want a back up- Gained Weight

Katelyn, on March 29, 2020 at 9:38 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 21
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Well I am officially admitting that I have dress regret. I went with my parents in October 2019 and tried on five different dresses. I picked this one and felt really good in it and even said to myself, this is it! My parents loved it and it was more affordable than we thought! $1200! I am a really active person - work out 5 days a week, lift, cardio, dance, the whole nine. I am not super strict with dieting but began doing so and said I know the dress will look even better on me once I lose just a little bit a of weight. That entire thought I think was my downfall. The dress is already very close in my size and well I tried it on last night and I hate it. I felt terrible, insecure, it was tighter in portions of my body that I thought I had lost weight in.


Felt defeated. Being quarantined obviously is not helping and with the gym being closed, I've been creating my home gym. I am also stressing because what if I don't lose the weight or if it is just my body type. I am looking at two dresses from Lulus, which I had initially wanted to go for but my mom was really wanting something more elegant. I agree - it is my wedding day! But my mom also made suggestions as well on the day of my purchase and that was that she thought I looked beautiful BUT she suggested maybe getting something I would have a little wiggle room in so that I would be comfortable.


I was feeling cocky and confident and said I'll be fine. I know I will look good when I tone up. I wish I listened. Is this normal?! I cannot return my dress - it is final sale. But like AM I CRAZY!!


My plan is to really diet even harder, only do cardio and also buy a backup dress off of Lulu's and then see how I'm feeling come May...or June.


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21 Comments

Latest activity by Rachel, on June 23, 2020 at 1:04 PM
  • Eshell
    Devoted July 2021
    Eshell ·
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    Beautiful !!!!!! Love you gown. I think you will be okay. Your wedding not until September. Just try watch your calorie intake.
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  • VIP November 2021
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    Honestly. I love the dress and I love it on you! You look stunning ! I don’t think you should think too much Into it. I know, easier said than done, I’m very insecure myself . I get it. But I would just eat healthy and exercise regularly- nothing crazy. How you look in these pictures are perfect !!!!
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  • Jai
    Rockstar May 2020
    Jai ·
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    This dress is absolutely beautiful. I love it and think you look amazing!
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  • Noelle
    Expert November 2019
    Noelle ·
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    You look gorgeous!!! Stop stressing...you look great.
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  • Emily
    Super August 2020
    Emily ·
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    Wow that dress is gorgeous 😍you have plenty of time. When I’m trying to shred pounds I primarily just do cardio for a while instead of weights.
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  • Givemeallthepups
    Expert February 2020
    Givemeallthepups ·
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    I think that dress look amazing on you! I also had a very slim fitting dress, even though I’m thin shapewear made all the difference.
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  • D
    Dedicated December 2021
    Daniel ·
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    It looks great. Don’t stress yourself over it. I found the down fall is to try to and think only about loosing weight and tone. When I did I wound up gaining more and stressed me out. When I just let it go and did not obsess about it I actually lost more. But the dress looks good. And before going and buying a backup that you can’t do anything with give it time first. Put the dress away and don’t try it on or look at it for a bit. Try relax and go back to normal before all of everything. See what happens
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  • Caitlin
    Savvy October 2020
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    I don’t think it looks too tight, but if it feels uncomfortable, then that is a problem. Anyway you can exchange it for the next size up? I think it looks really nice on you!
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  • V
    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I think you look really pretty! I wish I was the same size as you.

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  • Mrs.a
    Master October 2021
    Mrs.a ·
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    Awe! You look amazing!
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  • Laura
    Rockstar September 2020
    Laura ·
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    Dresses can usually be altered 2 sizes in both directions. No stress. Smiley smile
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  • Belle
    VIP August 2022
    Belle ·
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    You and your dress look amazing, in my honest opinion.


    If you, like me, feeling a bit insecure about some parts of our body, well... we have time to change that.
    I am not overweight, but I want my upper arms thinner, and my lose-skin around my waist thinner as well. I have 3 kids, and lose skin is what I hate, but I don’t have the gut or money to do the tummy tuck.
    I am doing the intermittent fasting, and some exercise using youtube. I have lost 11 lbs since January. However since this Rona-Era, we have stayed home only for 22 days now, and I gained back a little over 1 pound! I am short, only 4”7, so even a little makes a difference 🤣

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  • Deasia
    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Deasia ·
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    That dress is absolutely stunning! I was having some dress regret as well but quickly just realized i was over thinking. I’m sure you’ll be able to fit in it perfectly before your wedding date.
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  • Jennifer
    Super March 2020
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    I had a similar issue with my dress. I gained some muscle during a new workout program I was doing. Then I had surgery on top of that and the muscle turns to fat. All in all, I gained 10 lbs. So I lost 12 and figured that would be enough. My dress fit but the lining was so tight I couldn't fit. I would see if they can release the lining because after my minimal weight loss, that is all i needed!
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  • Lindsey
    Savvy September 2021
    Lindsey ·
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    The dress is gorgeous and you look great! Theres so much external stress right now that you might be thinking too much into this.


    When you tried your dress on recently, did you have hair/makeup done at all? Idk you but I’ve been rocking the braless, top-bun coronavirus special and it’s definitely got me feeling not my best either.
    Just keep an eye on what you’re eating and your activity (to be clear - again, you look great!) and i think you’ll be fine. Keep your head up girlfriend! 💜
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  • Joyce
    Dedicated October 2020
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    The dress looks beautiful! And honestly, it could be that you were just a bit bloated when you tried it on the second time! I had the same experience when I tried on my dress at the tailor’s and saw the pictures, thought I looked awful. Went back for a second fitting three weeks later after being a little bit more strict about diet, adding an extra cardio session to my usual strength training, and it looked great. You’re in really good shape generally and just a few weeks of eating clean and a little cardio will do the trick, promise! Also, honeylove (like spanx but better) is basically magic.
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  • Katelyn
    Savvy May 2021
    Katelyn ·
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    WOW! Thank you all so much for your encouraging and kind words. It is uplifting and I might have needed that to be honest. I am going to give it some time and take all of your advice and thoughts! I am going to go hard with the cardio, and try to not stress and let this virus get to me! You all rock! I did try it on again with my fiance's mom and we feel a little bit better now!

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  • Taylor
    Savvy June 2020
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    Girl! You look amazing that back is stunning ! The best thing for a dress like that is great posture and toned arms and your arms are so slender it will be easy as for the no gym there is this app called Fit On it’s amazing! At home work outs for free some just 10 mins! Totally works it has abs cardio and arms you can even put in that you want to tone not build ! You look amazing and will look even more amazing on the day don’t let’s the quarantine ruin your joy it has taken enough! I still have hope for June and will be on my fit on app if you want you can friend me Taylor Avera 😘
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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
    Kari ·
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    First, I LOVE your dress. I think you look great in it!

    I also totally get the not feeling your best self right now. I'm an athletic director at a college and currently teaching fitness classes from my basement, but throughout the day I'm not as active, and I'm stressed and not sleeping well because of Covid-19 impacting our wedding. I've only gained a couple of pounds but don't feel as good about myself and don't think I look as toned as I did six weeks ago. It is really difficult not to feel down on myself and depressed about everything right now.

    From a person with an exercise science degree and who works in the fitness field, DO NOT just do cardio as a way of getting in shape for your wedding. Cardio won't help you build muscle tone, and unlimited cardio may cause you to lose weight but it isn't going to improve your health or fitness. There are a ton of body weight exercise routines you can do in your home without any equipment, and doing workouts that include full body movements and large muscle groups will actually burn more calories and cause you to build lean muscle, which will increase your metabolism. I suggest making sure you are eating primarily nutritious food, get as much fresh food (or frozen fruits and veggies as you can), drink plenty of water, and try to move and remain active throughout the day, even if that's just getting up once an hour to walk up and down your steps 10x or do a lap around your yard. I think the most difficult thing about right now is that people are so sedentary, possibly eating a lot of shelf stable or processed food (which isn't always the freshest or full of various nutrients), and stressed because Covid-19 is stressful.

    Your dress is beautiful and I think you look incredible in it. There's no harm in getting an inexpensive dress from Lulu's that you can wear for your reception if you feel like your dress is tight or uncomfortable and you want something you can move around in a bit more, but I would definitely tell you that you look amazing and should absolutely rock that gorgeous dress on your rocking body for your big day!

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  • Katelyn
    Savvy May 2021
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    Wow! thank you so much! means a lot - and I think you're totally right about that. I am just feeling so BLAH from the stress of possibly postponing the wedding, to being stuck inside, i'm working from home and i'm still staying super active. you're right about the mixing up of workouts. i am doing weight training, and virtual boot camps thanks to a great friend who owns his own gym. the anxiety and stress of grocery shopping and finding available slots online is overwhelming too and so yeah, eating as healthy as possible but man, this corona is really doing a number on my mental health and physical health. but i'm fighting back hard and i think all of us are! we will get through this. I am going to keep this dress and a lulus back up dress and call it day! Smiley heart

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