Fatsypatsy
Beginner August 2019

Dress insecurity

Fatsypatsy, on August 5, 2019 at 1:30 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 24
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I am getting married In a few days and I am feeling very nervous about how I look in my dress. I gained around 15 lbs after I quit smoking and I’ve been trying to lose it for about a year and a half, but my weight has been a total up down uphill battle that whole time. I love my dress it is totally what I imagined it being, but I also imagined myself being in the most kickass shape of my life on my wedding day and that is not going to materialize. I am 5 5 and 130 lbs, my boobs are also HUGE and I feel like that makes me look heavier. I keep looking at these pictures and nit picking my body and thinking that I don’t look good and it’s just causing me a lot of stress. I think I look like a fat little girl. Am I the only girl that feels this way and no matter what is just so harsh of a critic? Is it normal to feel so fat all the time? Help! Lol

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Rockstar December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    That's a beautiful dress! You aren't fat at all!

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  • Cookie
    Dedicated October 2019
    Cookie ·
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    I agree you look amazing
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  • Mandi
    VIP March 2020
    Mandi ·
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    You look great. So back straight, shoulders back, head up!
    And let me tell ya, I don't know ya, but I'm sure ya smell better too!
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  • Meagan
    Dedicated May 2020
    Meagan ·
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    Congratulations on quitting smoking! That is such a hard habit to kick, and you should be really proud of yourself!

    I understand how you feel about feeling out of shape, and having that influence how you see yourself. I have a larger chest myself and I'm also really self-conscious in that area. Trying on wedding dresses was nerve-racking because I was worried that I'd hardly be able to focus on the dress with my eyes going straight to my chest in the mirror. We're our own worst critics and often the 'flaws' that we perceive aren't noticed by other people whether they're strangers or our loved ones. That really became clear to me during my wedding dress shopping experience.

    You look absolutely stunning! Your dress is perfect and you are going to be absolutely glowing on your wedding day! There is nothing more beautiful than a person who is full of joy and completely in love. Smiley heart

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  • A
    Dedicated October 2019
    Andie ·
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    We are our own worst critics. But that dress looks amazing on you.
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  • Michelle
    Devoted August 2019
    Michelle ·
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    Very pretty
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  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
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    You look great! You're likely feeling different in your body and that's causing your insecurities. Maybe 15 lbs was just what you needed!
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  • Btbride
    Super August 2019
    Btbride ·
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    You are so skinny! I’m the same height as you and I weigh like 40 pounds more and I don’t think I look fat, so I’m shocked that you think you do! You look so, so beautiful in your dress.

    I hope you consider talking to a counselor or therapist about your body image struggles. The way you talk about yourself really rings to some possible deeper issues and I encourage you to work through them with a professional so they don’t snowball into something more serious. In the meantime, try and focus on self-love, because you honestly look AMAZING and you can tell by the comments that the only person who thinks otherwise is you! So be kind to yourself!
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  • Kelly
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    Kelly ·
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    You do not look like you gained weight in that dress! You look amazing. I also think the neckline is very flattering to the chest area.
    Also the fact it fits is all that matters, the ball gown shape line flatters body changes on everyone. You look so pretty and it's not even your wedding yet!
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  • Sara
    Devoted April 2020
    Sara ·
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    That dress is beautiful and looks like it fits you perfect, you should not be worried at all (easier said than done) but honestly it fits just right
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  • Alisha
    Expert August 2020
    Alisha ·
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    You look beautiful in your dress. You are not fat at all. Please don't stressing because you look beautiful and you are going to have a wonderful wedding.

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  • Dita
    Expert August 2019
    Dita ·
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    Congrats on quitting! That dress is so beautiful and VERY flattering on you!
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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    Congrats on quitting smoking, I know it's so hard to quit. You look beautiful in your dress!!

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  • Erin
    Rockstar July 2021
    Erin ·
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    You look fantastic! Your dress is absolutely gorgeous.
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  • Devoted August 2020
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    You look amazing in the dress, it’s very figure flattering. Focus on how big a deal it is that you quit smoking. The neckline is great on you, look for things you do like about yourself. We all have our hang ups.
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  • Holly
    Devoted June 2020
    Holly ·
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    I guarantee you no one sees your perceived flaws the way you do. You have a beautiful figure and your dress is very flattering, especially in the bust area! It doesn’t make you look heavy or top heavy at all!
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  • Brittany
    Dedicated November 2019
    Brittany ·
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    That dress fits you so well, you are gorgeous!

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  • Alyssa
    Devoted October 2019
    Alyssa ·
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    That dress looks amazing on you. You don’t look fat at all!!
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  • Futuremrsmccormack
    Super February 2020
    Futuremrsmccormack ·
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    First of all, CONGRATS on quitting smoking! That is one of the greatest things you can do for your heath and life!


    Secondly, the name "Fatsypatsy" needs to go! You are NOT fat at all, your body is BANGIN' and that dress is a dream on you! A lot of women pay a lot of money for a body like yours! (I mean, I would if I had the $$...)


    I'm also trying to lose weight for my day, but I know that no matter what, FH is going to think I'm beautiful. I'm sure your FS feels the same way!


    If you want a quick fix the week before, cut out salt and drink 64+ ounces of water per day. Only no-calorie drinks (water, unsweetened tea, black coffee) as that adds a ton of hidden calories. You'd be AMAZED at what that little salt trick can do! And POSTURE! Keep the girls hiked as high as possible, and it'll show what your momma gave you AND show off your TINY waist!

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  • M.W.
    VIP June 2019
    M.W. ·
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    You look beautiful and the dress fits you to a T

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