Dress code??

People may not think that but they may figure it out. Hmmmm...not sure how you would word that. You could put it on there but people will ask why.

I don't think you could include it on your website without tipping people off to the reason you're asking them not to wear that color. I know if I was a guest and saw "We ask our guests to please not wear red!" on the wedding website, I would definitely assume that it's because the bride is wearing red.

Unfortunately, I think you'll have to decide on either keeping it a secret or asking people not to wear it.

I feel like the only way you could pull it off without anyone finding out is to have a themed party such as an “all white affair” or “black and white attire only.” That way you can guarantee no one will wear the color. Other than that I feel like people may put it together. Either way, if someone wears the same color you will def stand out as the bride!

You could possibly list your dress color among your wedding colors and frame it more like you want them to stand apart from the bridesmaids or décor? Idk what color your dress is, but the only other thing I can think is to encourage guests to wear "seasonal" colors or something. That way its less of you telling them not to wear something and maybe more of fitting in with a general theme.

Either way it's a tricky one without giving it away or at least implying that there's something special about that color. And there's always a chance that someone will show up in it anyway. But in the end even if someone wears the exact same color, you'll still be the bride.

I think telling them not to wear a certain color will spoil the surprise!

No you can say the wedding color scheme is ____ and not to wear it so the party stands out from the guests..

I think people would probably figure that out if you wrote it on the website.


Honestly do you really care if other people wear that color? Not like anyone won’t know you’re the bride lol

I’ve been to a couple weddings where the bride wore a different color than white. They didn’t mention anything beforehand and no one had any issues mistaking other people for the bride.

I think you'll stand out no matter what!

View Quoted Comment Thanks everyone! I'll just keep it a secret and leave it alone, let everyone be surprised when I walk down the aisle

Something you could do is politely put a statement that the wedding colors be avoided? That is, if purple is in your color palette as well. That way no one would really notice.

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Woo hoo!

You could do it a roundabout way and ask people to wear specific colors that compliment the palette (i.e, if your dress is red, have everyone else wear gray, black, purple, etc). Maybe give them two or three colors to wear.

No matter what, even if someone shows up in your color, you'll still be the star of the show.

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I agree with Shelly. I would say asking for black and white attire only is the better way to go. Any way you go i'm sure some people will still assume something is up.