Dress code

Hmmm.

Good question.

I'm still setting up my website but I'll have to make sure to add this!

Thanks!

I'm having a brunch wedding so I don't think that formal is really appropriate.

I guess I'll say semiformal or dressy casual.

We did but only because the venue owner said no heels, we got married on a working farm. The only other reason I would put a dress code on the website or invite would be if it was black tie.

We put the info for the shoes on our info page with the timeline on it.

Our website had an option for "attire" so I just put "Semi-Formal (Cowboy Boots Encouraged!) on ours.

We stated "Cocktail Attire Requested" on our website.

Ours had an option for attire too, we put "semi-formal - cocktail dresses, jacket and tie, or something comparable is recommended."

Saying semi-formal is super vague and I have a feeling I'm still going to get a hundred "what should I wear" texts lol. Hopefully giving an example of recommended attire will help

No. Unless it's black tie, or there is some unusual circumstance like @Jennifer mentioned above, there's no need to mention attire. I think most people know how to dress for a wedding. Those who don't, won't pay attention to what's on your website anyway.

This is what I put on mine, that way people knew they didn't have to dress up fancy.

Dress Code - Business Casual or Casual. Weather Permitting, the state park has amenities for outside activities.

Unless it's black tie or extenuating circumstances (ie the no heels) there is zero need to designate dress code. In fact, it's rude to tell guests what to wear. Guests will deem what's appropriate based on the formality of your invitations and venue.

Thanks for those with opinions on whether we should include it or not! I guess my question was a bit confusing, I’m not asking if we SHOULD just how to word it and I know I can’t edit to make that more clear. I don’t think it’s rude at all just trying to figure out if we want to put cocktail or formal on our website! Thanks

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That's nice you don't find it rude, hopefully your guests feel the same way.

What is making you go between cocktail vs formal? Is it an aesthetics thing (ie you want guests to look a certain way in your pictures)? Or is it a guests being comfortable thing? Or something else completely?

Cocktail Attire are the only two words i noted.

We put formal/black tie optional. We also made note of the fact that the ceremony was on grass and cocktail hour/dinner was on cobblestone so to make appropriate footwear choices.

On the Knot website I put casual to set the tone. It's outdoor in a large arboretum so I also mentioned comfortable shoes.

We did cocktail attire.

Just put in on the website.

We put: “Cocktail attire requested. This generally means a suit and tie for gentlemen and a cocktail dress for ladies, or something comparable.” I understand what people are saying that guests judge based on formality of venue and invites but 1) some people don’t pick up on those hints or don’t really know that etiquette and there’s nothing worse than showing up horribly under or over dressed. 2) how do My FHs Iowa relatives know the formality of my Colorado mountain venue? I feelbit is rude NOT to give some indication of dress, to leave your guests wondering is the worst.

This a screenshot of our mobile wedding website.

I wasn't planning on saying a word, but everyone is asking (well, according to my mother...no one has asked me directly) so I put "beachy-dressy, no jackets required" on the website. If that doesn't explain the vibe, I don't think anything will. LOL

As a guest, I don't think it's rude to have something noted on your website. I would actually prefer to have some idea of what to expect.

We went to a wedding a few weeks ago - Saturday evening @ 6pm, I wasn't familiar with the venue at all, the invites seemed pretty formal to me (just black & white text, no images). I wore my go-to semi formal/cocktail dress. Everyone else was in jeans, shorts, t-shirts. I clearly didn't get the memo!

What are you thinking would be the appropriate attire for your guests? I would only use formal if you're expecting full suits, ties, long dresses. I would call it Cocktail Attire or Date Night attire if you're expecting a little black dress or nice button down shirt & tie.

View Quoted Comment Is your venue more formal? Is it in the evening? Are you having a multi course plated meal? Are groomsmen wearing tuxes? These are things that would help determine if it’s cocktail or formal.