Dress Anxiety!

Maybe they’ll let you use what you paid as credit towards something else ?

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I'm hoping, It was purchased 2 days ago and I am going back in 2 days to retry.

This time when you shop, go with only 1 or 2 people who share your taste, how you want to look, be it glamour puss or boho. or go alone. And ask in advance for them to set out a variety of different silhouettes, even ones you do not think flatter you. As you have found, dress on a model pictures do not look as your body does in a style. Try high waisted or empire, try drop waist, as well as ones with a natural waistline. Try one with some sleeve, to make your shoulders seam broad, and emphasise an hourglass. Try lots that are lighter, and do not trail or have trains, for the beach. You can always have a detachable train made for the ceremony and posed portraits ahead of time, but not on the beach for hours.
Most people do not wear formalwear styles often enough to know the difference in how a bell vs mermaid skirt, or some shoulder and sleeve vs strapless, affects their whole body line from a viewers side. Once you have tried all, then try the best styles that are NOT what you already have.

If you find a dress you like more hopefully the shop will let you use the money you’ve paid to put toward the new dress.
I am having dress regret also and have an appointment next week to basically start over. I’m sure the employees at the shop hate when brides do that. 😏 I am going to take my current dress and I have about 6 other dresses I want to try on. I’m thinking I will most likely be exchanging.

Ask if they will allow you to receive a store credit if they won’t refund you

What I found is sparkle isn’t as sparkly outdoors as it is under indoor/ambient lighting. I’m not sure if you wanted as much sparkle for your outdoor wedding/photos but just know it won’t be as sparkly outside.

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Its hard dress shopping! I went to a place and almost bought a dress that my maid of honor raved about. I FaceTimed my mom and she said it was great too. I thought I loved it, but something just didn't settle right. I made it to the check out counter where they were measuring me before I burst into tears from the pressure I felt to just go through with it. The sales woman was incredibly pushy and kept telling me it was "normal" to feel that way. Thankfully I backed out! For you maybe the order hasn't gone fully through and they will be able to cancel and you can get at least a partial refund. I suppose another option would be to try and sell it for as much of a return as you can get! Good luck on your second try! You have to feel your best, don't worry about everyone else!

It's so unbelievably hard for most of us to find that perfect dress especially when you have to order it so far in advance and have so many months to think about it and look at other dresses. I did the same thing, brought a sample on line, had it altered etc but never really felt that it was 100% the dress I wanted. So I decided to try on some more dresses and think I've found one that makes me feel it's the one. I did take my fiance with me and he actually picked out the dress, it wasn't a style I would normally have picked out for myself so I was really surprised when I put it on and had that wow feeling. He won't know which dress I get as I had it narrowed down to two but to me it was important that he liked my dress as he's the person who's opinion matters the most.

As you've only just purchased the other dress I would hope that the shop would let you return it or get a credit towards another one. When you look at other dresses, try on as many as you feel you need to and try on different styles that you may not necessarily think suit you, sometimes you can be surprised. Take photos and videos (if the shop allows) and then think about it over the next few days, look at the photos and videos again and if you still think you love it then go back and get it. I found that sometimes I would love a dress when I put it on and then when I looked at the photos and videos later it didn't look how I thought it looked in the shop. Don't let the shop pressure you into buying something there and then, if they're professional they'll be happy for you to come back and try again. There's so little time given at bridal shops now that sometimes you feel the need to find the dress of a lifetime in an hour or so, I can't even pick out a pair of jeans in an hour, let alone a wedding dress!

Good luck and I hope you find your perfect dress

Find out what their return policy is for the existing dresses you have. You may have to end up selling it yourself at half the cost on Letgo or Preownedweddingdresses.com
Either way, you should love your dress, not settle for it because you're rushed or pressured. Take your time to try on many styles. Don't commit unless you absolutely love the dress.