Dreams vs Reality: Wedding Planning

I'm sorry you are not having a positive experience with wedding planning. It's pretty normal to recieve tons of unsociated advice but it's you and your FHs day!!! Take other people's opinions with a grain of salt. Stay focused and true to your vision. If they ask about wedding planning or decisions give them a short blanket answer and don't go into detail and change the subject. (For example, oh, we haven't decided on that) Even if you have made those decisions they can find out at the wedding when they walk-in (if they're invited! Lol). Your vision, taste, budget will not match anyone else's so their opinion doesn't matter! If they really get pushy you can smile and say " thank you for offering to help, I'll keep that in mind". It makes them feel heard like their helping but keeps them off your back.

The first thing to remember is that the wedding is not just you but also your fiancé, who should also be helping plan. It is pretty common where people here are saying they would like their fiancés to help plan the wedding. Certainly that's the one who should most encourage you. One way to possibly take some control here would be to find three or four alternatives for aspects of the wedding. At least get your fiancé supporting you in making a decision together. (Some brides have said that a lack of narrow choices often is too much for their fiancés. Oh well.) He should then defend the decisions.

But a bit depends on who pays the wedding costs. If need be, share the list of options with them and note these are the only things you can work out. Maybe allow for a slight change or recommendation. But first share with your fiancé that there are too many opinions coming in. He should help to take "your" side. Ask him to work with you. Also, let others know, and remember yourself, that this is a celebration that will still end up in the ultimate goal of your guys' marriage.

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Weddings have a funny way of getting unsolicited opinions from people. If you and your fiance are paying for the wedding, then no one else's opinions matters except yours and his. When someone gives you an unsolicited opinion on something they think you should do, you could respond with something along the lines of, "Thanks for the idea! But we've already decided on what we're doing for that." Or you could respond with, "Thanks for the idea! We'll consider it." Another thing you could do is limit what information you give people about wedding planning. Be vague in your answers and then change the subject when people ask questions (if they're people who are pushy about their ideas).

I get this and am experiencing it as well!! Who knew it could be this stressful? My only "tip" is to remind myself that is a rollercoaster. There will be things that bring joy and there will be things that bring frustration. Lots of slow deep breathing to help yourself and maybe just do the next small item and take a break from thinking about everything. Good luck and I wish you some peace of mind.