This starts out not too wedding related but I can't help but think it's really dumb and nobody's place but ours.. As some of you read we got a puppy before the wedding which btw has been going swimmingly well; she's a perfect fit and so adorable So I posted about her on social media as many people do when they bring a new furbaby home. Well like 3 days after the post, FH's younger brother says "Oh so I guess Bo didn't make the cut then" with the puzzled face emoji. I was fuming.
For some back story, TWO years ago and some change now, FH brought home a puppy (Bo) as a surprise and I was not happy. It was terrible timing (we had roommates and their big dog plus ours), not even a breed we have ever talked about wanting (a weimaraner, so basically a huge horse in dog disguise), and might've been that I wasn't even done with school either. Basically I expressed to FH I wasn't raising a puppy in this chaos of our house and basically by myself when he works night shift. He was mad, thinking why wouldn't I want a puppy. So we thought on it, and we decided to give the puppy to FH's dad. I thought hey, water under the bridge cuz his dad loooves that dog. So when FH's brother asked that I was fuming simply because he never even knew the situation in general, seeing as him and FH don't talk anyway because the younger brother doesn't like my FH's political choices.
So I told FH about the post and he got really mad too and told his parents to deal will it or he would. Well come to find out, FMIL asked the same question about our puppy (not in an accusatory way really but asked nonetheless) and took the younger son's side. But I am sitting here like wow I am soooo sorry, how much time should've passed where it was acceptable and okay in everyone else's eyes for US to get another dog as a couple's decision? Didn't realize it was anyone else's say what we do in our household. I think it's crap and basically this happens all the time. Another day a different drama with them. It's one thing after another and quite frankly I know FH doesn't want to deal with it.
We already know FMIL is upset her sons don't talk anymore but she also doesn't intervene. She's letting FH's younger brother make the adult decision if he wants to come to our wedding or not. FH doesn't care and we definitely think he won't show. But I know that's just grounds for uncomfortable holidays in the future, fights with MIL, and stances taken about our future children. I know quite frankly if he doesn't show I am not going to feel so warm and welcoming to him if that's how he's gonna be over politics/election. He once told me at a previous holiday that his beef with his brother has nothing to do with me, and while that's an okay gesture, it kinda does because I am marrying FH, so it's ever going to involve me in some way. Anyone else have sticky scenarios in their families where you can't help think the future is just going to cause a lot of headaches?