RANT WARNING! 
So I know these topics are dime a dozen around here, but how about a fresh one for this week/today? I am anxiety city over here. I have had ongoing guest list issues with my Drama Llama family. FH's family is as simple and nice as a cake mix, but my family has been acting feral. I am doing adults-only for budget reasons, which practically everyone knows, and we didn't invite random plus ones for those not married or in a serious relationship. Our families are both huge, and it was the only way we could afford to invite them to anything at all. Cutting kids took our guest list down by at least 30 heads.
All that being said, I have had a horrible time trying to get people in general to commit, yes or no, to whether or not they're coming, and I've tried every trick from the book. A big issue is that people of my parents' generation are often refusing to respect what I, the bride, have to say on the matter, so I set my parents on them..... but my parents are being VERY wishy-washy and practically allowing everyone's BS, or just refusing to contact them altogether and leave it up to me. At the same time, my parents are the ones paying for the wedding, and they just don't see how their budget vs their idea on how to deal with errant guests clash completely. SO who knows how many RSVP "no"s are going to actually show up?
We finally got our final head count, and now a few people (family!) are trying to go back and forth on how they had RSVPed. I also have at least one guest who is going out of their way to intentionally force their toddler in, when EVERYONE has been told--and it's on the wedding website--that it's a strict adults-only wedding, no exceptions other than bridal party. AND the only reason we are having kids in the bridal party is because we wanted to involve our own daughter--like "oh no," amirite? All my other cousins with children, all of whom are traveling across the state, found accommodation with little to no issue, and many are even looking forward to it. We also, only a few weeks ago, didn't think twice about finding a sitter for our little to attend a family wedding across the state. But this specific set of parents/my aunt/the child's grandmother seriously are going out of their way to be intentionally rude about it at this point. I say that because I have given options and gentle nudges referring to the "adults only" aspect and they are brazenly insisting that the child will be there. It's not the kid's fault but that is just THE rudest thing to me and I won't be able to even look at them straight if they actually show with him after everything.
I am most likely going to do strict place cards at each table, and am legit considering those passive-aggressive escort cards that say "I didn't RSVP 'Yes' but came anyway" and seating them with the vendors...... but I know that I am probably overreacting, that that meme is a joke, and that my family would give me serious crap about it for the rest of my life. I know many people say in theory that they will turn away those who did not RSVP, but how do you even do that in reality? Especially when they're family who traveled quite a distance--from across the state or out of state? I'm putting a lot of extra work, time, and energy that I do not have into finding a sitter for my cousins who are trying to force their child in, but if they refuse the sitter and bring the kid anyway..... like to me that's grounds for being tossed out, but I know in my heart I wouldn't actually be able to do that in good conscience.
How are you working with your guest list Drama Llamas?
Thanks. 
