Hi ladies! Forewarning: this is a rant that is going to be all over the place due to how heated I am at the moment.
1. I HATE people who do not have the decency to RSVP to events. All you do is call, send a postage reply card, or click yes or no on a website. Simple as that. But no, some people will just ignore all things "RSVP" *huff*
2. Along the lines of people who do not RSVP, in the Polish culture, RSVPs are not a thing. At least in my group/family, people tend to show up or not. So, I am having a GRAND time dealing with this considering I hate this, and my FH family is American. I will not accept this, no way. I am butting heads with my mother about this for my bridal shower. My MIL is kindly hosting the shower for me at her house, so she needs to know how many people will be there (food and chairs of course) and it is just common courtesy to RSVP to these things. RSVPs are due Saturday. 0% of my side has RSVP'd. I kindly asked my mom to call or contact people she has not heard from on Sunday to confirm attendance and numbers, and that I even offered to contact some of my family. She tells me "no I am not going to waste time calling people. people will show up or they don't. I don't want to look bad for annoying everyone about whether or not they are coming to this shower. YOU can call, but I am not."........... this really put me over the edge. How do I even deal with this? Chase down people on my side for my shower, AND then for my wedding too because she is going to say the same thing? NO, absolutely not. Our venue needs a specific number of guests, so anyone who does not RSVP or we do not hear from is an automatic "no" and if they show up I will kick them out, no shame. They have PLENTY of time to RSVP. Yeah, I get it things come up, but all you do is click "yes or no" on our website. No RSVP=no seat or plate. Simple as that. AITA for this? I am paying for 99% of this wedding. She invited all these people I do not know or care about because THEY are important and HAVE to be there, yet criticized me for asking my teacher coworkers/friends to come to my wedding. My mother can at least call these people to confirm attendance after the RSVP date, but I already know she won't and will expect me to have a seat for them no matter what. UGH.
3. Just the sheer disrespect I am dealing with from my mother, and I can't do anything about it. My FH knows all about this, and it infuriates me he has to deal with it too. My mother is all about Polish pride and thinks "we" are better than everyone else. So the way she talks about my FHs side is disgusting and pathetic. I am getting angrier and angrier each day for her comments. It is just WOW. Mind-blowing how a family can talk about others you love and care for, right to your face. There is only so much I can say to stop her.. like, just be happy for me and keep your comments to yourself.. sigh.
Thanks for reading! How were all of your experiences with RSVPing and families..!? LOL
