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Chanieish
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Dr. to Mrs. title?

Chanieish, on April 21, 2019 at 11:06 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 26
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Hi all,

I have a title/etiquette question. I am a surgeon and use the title Dr. a lot at work. I am inviting a lot of MDs and as respect to them will be writing “Dr. so and so” on their formal wedding invites and on the bridesmaids bio etc. My mom is very proud of me and is suggesting that I the officiant use Dr. whe she introduces us. I find it a bit weird: Mr. and Dr? I think Mr and Mrs sounds better...

I know it’s my wedding and I should do what feels right to me but what do you think?

Thank you!

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Latest activity by Lady, on April 22, 2019 at 3:45 PM
  • Ashley
    Dedicated August 2019
    Ashley ·
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    If you're invitation says dr. That seems fine enough. I saw during the wedding you are a mrs., a new mrs and I'd be soo proud of that! ❤❤
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  • Ashley
    Dedicated August 2019
    Ashley ·
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    Sorry... your**** dang auto correct
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  • Chanieish
    Dedicated May 2021
    Chanieish ·
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    Hi!

    Sorry I should have been more clear. My wedding is next year and this Mrs vs Dr. title stuff is for the ceremony/reception announcements. Smiley smile
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  • M
    Super June 2019
    Mary ·
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    I would still use Dr. You earned the right be called that. That's what you are. You are still a Mrs. but I would put more emphasis on the title.
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  • Chanieish
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    Chanieish ·
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    Thanks Mary. So would you do: “Introducing Mr and Dr. Last Names”?
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  • M
    Super June 2019
    Mary ·
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    Are you changing your last name? If so I would go with the Mr. and Dr. last names. If not, Mr. His name, Dr. your name.
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  • Leigh
    Dedicated January 2020
    Leigh ·
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    I would think long-term about how you want to be referred to socially. If you want people to use the term Dr. that’s going to be a struggle and you probably want to take the opportunity to emphasize it. Personally I’d avoid the issue and have the announcer use first names.
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  • Jessica
    Beginner July 2018
    Jessica ·
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    I think you should go with Mr. and Mrs. as this is the one and only time you have to be introduced as such. You have the rest of your life to be referred as/go by Dr. 🙂
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I would use Dr. You earned that title with a lot of hard work. Plus, men who have that title almost always use that instead of Mr. Why should the case be different based on gender?
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  • Victoria
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    Victoria ·
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    I agree! It's an exciting moment and a time for you to celebrate becoming a Mrs!
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  • Jessica
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    Jessica ·
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    I think you've earned the right to choose whatever you want. I'm not a doctor but I think even if I was I'd want my wedding to celebrate me being a Mrs. The rest of my life I can celebrate being a doctor.
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  • Chanieish
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    Chanieish ·
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    Thank you for the comments everyone! I prefer to be called by my first name anyway, not Dr even at work. I think I will be introduced as Dr. at the beginning of the ceremony, but Mrs once we are married!

    I agree that at all weddings I have been to if the husband was a Dr, it would be Dr. and Mrs. I didn’t want to shortchange my parents sacrifices to help get me where I am today.
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  • Rachel
    Super May 2019
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    I think you'll enjoy that "Mrs" part when it happens. Smiley smile And this is a nice way to compromise, starting the ceremony as "Dr." then going to "Mrs.". It doesn't remove your title, it just gives honour to the new one you added.

    For me personally, I prefer to go by my Mrs. on the wedding day. Mostly because the day is about "us" as a couple. Not me and my personal achievements. Plus, I assume most people going know about the doctor title. But the wedding day is a celebration of the two of you becoming a family.

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  • Kora
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    Kora ·
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    Agreed.. you’re going to want to hear the officiant call you a MRS with his last name Smiley smile
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  • Katie
    Dedicated October 2019
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    It's definitely your choice. If I was a guest and my friend had a phD, I wouldnt complain or think it's weird. She (and you) earned it! PhD's are hard work.

    Congrats on that and also getting married!
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  • AshleyR
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    Just to add 2 cents on to this because it seems like you’ve made your decision, but if you decided to go win Dr. your honorific would go before Mr. so you would be introduced as “Dr. & Mr. Lastname”. Also since you said you are inviting colleagues to remember that the order of honorifics apply to the invites as well. So it would be “Dr. and Mr. Guest” if the woman is a doctor and the man is not 🙂
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  • K
    Dedicated May 2019
    kelsey ·
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    You totally earned the right to be called Dr.! If I was you I would want to hear that every chance I could, but if it were me I think I would want to hear Mrs. At my wedding. It would feel more special. Just my opinion!
    I’ve known many woman Doctors and I find that many of them use their dr. Title in formal and professional situations but also respond to the Mrs. Title, especially if they chose to have kids!


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  • Jenna
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    Jenna ·
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    You have the right to choose whatever feels best for you!

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  • Emily
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    Emily ·
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    You could always have the officiant announce you as “Mr [full name] and Dr [full name]” or vice versa instead of the titles one after the other (“Mr and Dr [names]”)
    You earned your title of doctor and that is a very respected honor to bear. The pronouncement of you two together in marriage is important, but equally so are your individual accomplishments.
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  • Kimber
    Devoted June 2020
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    How about something like, "Introducing as husband and wife, Mr. and Dr. X!" Best of both worlds acknowledging your title and your newlywedness
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