Dr. & Mrs. sign

I'm with your honey. I work with PhDs and candidates all day.

And since you use this to tease him, it sounds mean to do this at the wedding.

If you want to do it, I would run it past him.

He doesn't like being called Doctor. Why would you do something like that at the wedding? I know you think it's funny, but this idea comes across the wrong way to me. I would also think that guests who aren't in on the "joke" would find it pretentious.

I would not tease him on his WEDDING!

I'm with him though. I have several smarty pants friends with PhD's and I don't think ANY of them go by Dr. I can't imagine breaking it out for a special event.

I would definitely check to see how you FH would feel about this because it's going to be on his chair.

I wouldn't do this - teasing him at the wedding where no one else knows the inside joke. I vote for sticking with Mr. and Mrs. signs.

I wouldn't do it, stick with the Mr. and Mrs. signs. If I was one of your guest without knowing the inside joke I'd see it as you being pretentious.

All valid points, thanks for the feedback! He doesn't get mad when I call him that or anything - we joke around a lot and our wedding will have lots of funny/silly details and things, but I'll leave this one out.

Totally unrelated side note but it annoys me so bad - a guy I work with has is JD, he isn't even a practicing lawyer and goes by "Dr." because he says he earned it having a Juris Doctorate. Rolleyes x1000.

Both of my parents have earned their doctorates, and both go by "Dr" since they very much so earned that right.

For the wedding, I would do Mr and Mrs signs, since your FH doesn't use Dr.

Could you put Dr. on one side and Mr. on the other? Flip it after the laugh?

At the guy with a JD that goes by Dr. - wow he sounds like a pretentious ass... I also have my JD, and am a practicing attorney- every now and then FH will call me Dr as a joke, and I absolutely let some pretentious as hell PhD frenemies know that I got my doctorate before them, but I would NEVER actually use it in everyday life or professional life! I think the only other time I've used Dr. Was registering to go on my post-bar exam cruise!

Haha honestly? I'd think pretentious because I'm not in on the joke (as are none of your guests I assume).

I remember addressing one invite to Mr. and Mrs. Smith, and they returned the invite having CROSSED OUT the Mr, and writing Dr. Most obnoxious thing ever.

@Amy that is a good idea! Maybe I'll do that. Or, I'm making a bunch of signs with random quotes and sayings on them, maybe I'll have to find a Dr. Phil one to strategically place somewhere I know he is going to try and prank me or do some joke on our wedding day, that's just how we both are and what we love about each other. He has said he is going to wear a Nacho Libre wrestling mask - I only half think he is joking!

If you are going to do it, definitely do what @amytherese said, that's a great idea.

If you have a photobooth, have Dr. Phil's head as a prop!!!!!!!!

I think....

A) it will look pretentious and like he wants to show off that he has a doctorate

B) considering that he doesnt like it, and considering point A... its not very nice

@PC LOL that is so obnoxious!!! Like it makes a difference to the seating chart...

PS unrelated, but my step sister's ex boyfriend (who we all didn't like because he wasn't respectful to my mom even though she let him stay in her house with my step sister) was working on his PhD and would get packages sent to the house with his title as Dr. It was so weird. Whenever I would go over and notice it I would send a photo to my siblings. I was a little brat, but he didn't EVEN have the degree yet!!!

Kristy, omg I know. When I made the escort cards, I put "Mr." just because I was so annoyed at them (they're known for being sort of pretentious and snobby - friends of the ILs).

@Princessconsuela I had a few guests do the same thing! I had a huge eye roll moment when I saw the RSVPs.

I am a Doctor and for our wedding I kept everything to Mr and Mrs. It's more bridal to me and it means a lot to me to change from Miss to Mrs. That being said I also made myself a two side escort card one saying Dr and the other saying Mrs. I would leave your personal jokes to a card or something more personal.

I don't think its pretentious, but personally I wouldn't do it bc FH doesn't like it. Its an inside joke but on the back of the chair is not subtle enough to be cute. I'd say like @2yearsaway said and incorporate it somewhere else, if you want. For example to my FH's family he's "little Todd" his dad is "Big Todd" its always funny to me (and for the life of me I can't bring myself to call his dad "Big Todd" seems weird-they are like the same size LOL). My family calls me "Baby Girl" (long story but I was born premature and my mom changed my name at the last minute to spite my dad & I was the first born in my generation on both sides). We we are saving our nick names for when we finally have to make the baby announcement something like "Little Todd and Baby Girl are having a Little Baby (if we don't want to announce the gender yet)/Baby Todd (if its a boy) /Little Girl (if its a girl)"

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