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Savvy November 2024

Downsizing?

Lala, on January 27, 2023 at 8:56 AM Posted in Planning 0 6
Hello! So originally me and my fiancé were planning a bigger wedding and reception with 100 people! However plans changed and we had sent out cancellations cards to everyone. Now things have got back on track but we’ve decided to downsize which means only 20 guest (immediate family only). The new date is 2 weeks before our previously set date. How should we go about telling people? Do we just causally call them? Send invites? What about the people who can’t come anymore? Any advice? Thank you ❤️

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Latest activity by Michelle, on February 5, 2023 at 8:38 PM
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    Since you already canceled the original wedding, I would send invites to the new one. I feel you you just hit the restart button, so you would proceed just as you would in planning any other wedding.
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    I agree with Hannah. By canceling the original plans, you aren't obligated to invite everyone from the previous plan. Send a new set of invites only to those who are invited to your new date. You do not need to reach out and explain to those who you are no longer inviting.
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  • Rabreena
    Expert October 2021
    Rabreena ·
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    I agree with Hannah and like how she put it saying how "you hit the restart button".

    Definitely send out new invites and since you are having a more intimate wedding with close family, if you can, call them and give them a heads up to expect a new invite in the mail from you, that way you can make any necessary adjustments in your invite ordering and sending in case someone does inform you they already know for a fact they cannot attend.

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  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
    Cece Online ·
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    As long as you sent out cancellation notices, and not postponement, you should be fine. Once cancellation notices are sent, that event is null and void, and you can treat the new wedding date like a completely different event (with a completely different guest list).
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    Savvy November 2024
    Lala ·
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    Thank you to everyone who gave advice! Truly appreciate it!
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    At the beginning of the pandemic this was a common question sent to the etiquette gurus (Miss Manners and Peggy Post) to figure out how to navigate the situation. They recommended sending cancellation cards to everyone on the original guest list. Then start over with a new guest list from scratch and send new invites with a new date because it’s a different event than the previous one. In this situation, if budget is a concern, go old school by sending save the dates verbally over the phone or in person with the same timeline of save the dates sent at 6-12 months before the wedding and invitations sent at 6-8 weeks before the wedding.


    If someone is unable to attend, still send them an invitation, not add a last minute B list.
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