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Downsizing Wedding

Jamie, on April 30, 2020 at 6:18 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 6

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My husband and I have recently gotten married and due to COVID 19 we were only allowed to have 10 people there while we did. We stuck to the immediate family. I have always wanted to have a big wedding and I am kind of sad that I cannot have that. We are planning to have just the reception later this year but I do not want to go through all of the trouble inviting all of the people that we did previously. We originally had around 220 and are looking to scale it back to 150. We already told all of our guests that the wedding is canceled. Some of the people on our original list were invited because I felt pity and put them on there out of wanting to be nice. Would it come off as rude to invite way fewer people the second time around?

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Latest activity by Autumn, on April 30, 2020 at 8:21 PM

Devoted December 2020
Morgan · on April 30, 2020 at 6:31 PM
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I’m sure some people would be upset/offended😕 But if they ask, you could just explain your situation to them.
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Jamie · on April 30, 2020 at 6:49 PM
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I was thinking to tell them that the venue cannot accommodate that many people
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Renee · on April 30, 2020 at 6:53 PM
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It's your call and I feel like guests know that there will be cuts to weddings. Surprisingly I had people offer to cut themselves because it would financially be too much for them or was just trying to help me keep my cost down.
When you look at 220 with the 80/20 rule, 176 would technically show up and 44 would cancel give or take a few. So you would only be 26 over your 150 IF everything played out exactly like that.
If it were me I would go ahead and invite the original 220. If not, just be prepared to explain to those not re-invited that you had to make cuts to keep the gathering number down not because you felt pity for them. That we be a disaster in itself. LOL
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Morgan · on April 30, 2020 at 7:00 PM
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Telling a white lie is always tricky😬 If anything I would blame it on finances. I’m sure people will understand though!!
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Gen · on April 30, 2020 at 7:33 PM
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I feel like anyone you invited the first time should be invited the second. It's the same event really, just postponed, so not inviting people who were invited the first time is really comparably as rude as uninviting.
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Autumn · on April 30, 2020 at 8:21 PM
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You can do whatever you want but expect to possibly loose those people from your lives afterwards
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