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Savvy September 2020

Downsizing tips (covid topic)

Maya, on May 2, 2020 at 1:14 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 5

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Hello ladies,
I hope everyone is safe. Like many of you, were stressing about what to do for our 9/5/20 wedding. We are in NJ (hotspot) and I can’t imagine we will be allowed to gather more than 50 people at that point. However we’ve already sent out save the dates to 200 people months ago. We are not interested in postponing for several reasons. Our options are to cancel (courthouse babe!), move forward as is and assume many people won’t come, downsize to a smaller guest list. My real question is, is there a polite way to only end up inviting 50 people when 200 save the dates were sent out? Is this rude or will people understand given the situation?

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Latest activity by Kari, on May 2, 2020 at 11:35 AM

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Rebecca · on May 2, 2020 at 1:34 AM
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Yay Jersey!
I think people will understand. (If they don't... well, that's their problem.) Most people are creating little letters citing public health and expressing sorrow. There are several good examples floating around.
I do think it's too early to really make the call, though, particularly since you won't really be sending out invitations until late June/early July. We're in a tough spot, yes, but we've already started shipping ventilators *out* of state, and we're seeing some restrictions lifted (I believe state parks are now open for passive use, as of sunrise Saturday).
It's hard to say what September is going to look like - we probably won't be at the 200-person-gathering place, yet, but we don't really know.
Best advice we've all got: Have a Plan B, be flexible, don't make decisions until you *have* to.
Good luck!
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Emily · on May 2, 2020 at 1:58 AM
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In Maine our wedding is during the 50 people or less guideline. We’re going to send out letters to everyone we sent save the dates to & explain the situation and that we decided to keep our wedding date & have an intimate ceremony instead.
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Jai · on May 2, 2020 at 2:54 AM
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I'm in NJ too! Our original guest list was 92. We downsized to 10. People do understand and some may get upset; particularly because FH and I will not be having a larger reception next year
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Danielle · on May 2, 2020 at 5:01 AM
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Maybe you could send out something inviting them to view it on zoom with explanation that in order to comply with COVID regulation would be best and only family included in the 10 invited to church. just a thought.
I am not sure what I am going to do yet either but I have a few months. waiting till June
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Kari · on May 2, 2020 at 11:35 AM
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People will definitely understand given the situation. Your guests probably just want you to be happy and do what is best for you. If you want, you can have the other guests attend via livestream (personally my FH and I have no desire to stream our wedding).
Our May 30th wedding will have to be canceled and we originally only had 80 guests, but we will probably just do an elopement and then have a bigger wedding/reception next year or later.
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