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Downsizing Guest List Due to covid - Help!

Amy, on January 19, 2021 at 7:03 AM Posted in Planning 0 7
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Hey fellow Brides,


After postponing our July 2020 wedding, my fiancé and I have decided to move forward with our new May 2021 date, no matter what.
Right now, our state has a limit of 50 people, which means we’re downsizing from 170+
We split the list, so I have 24 people to invite. And I’m stuck.
I have a core group of 7 girls that I’ve been friends with for ages. Three of them are in the wedding party. They all are either married or engaged.
I’m stuck. With my family “must-haves” there is no way I can invite all of them and their significant others. I’d either have to only invite the girls in the bridal party (and their S/Os) OR tell all 7 it’s a “girls only thing,” and if things change their fiancés would be FIRST on the list to come.
I’d feel awful not inviting the girls who aren’t in the bridal party. I also feel bad not inviting their significant others, especially for those in the bridal party. It’s a tough decision all around, and I don’t want to hurt feelings.
Has anyone else dealt with this? HELP!

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Latest activity by MK LC, on January 19, 2021 at 5:12 PM
  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    Just be honest with them and explain plans have changed bc of COVID mandates.
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  • Katie
    Rockstar August 2020
    Katie ·
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    Hi Amy, I’ve had to cut my list too so I feel your pain. I actually would go the “girls only” route. My girls actually all offered “cut my husband - he won’t care” 😂 Certainly under normal circumstances, the spouses would of course be invited and I know my girls were super understanding!! For me, restrictions lifted so I was able in the end to invite spouses. I sent my invitations literally 6 weeks before, so you have a little time. If it opens up, spouses included!
    Hope this helps with your decision ❤️
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  • A
    Just Said Yes May 2021
    Amy ·
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    That was the route I was learning towards too. My girls are a core group, so if I tell them all they can’t bring their fiancés/husbands, that seems more fair, and then we can all celebrate together. My fiancé is planning to do the same with his friends.


    Hopefully things ease up enough to allow for a few extra guests. Cutting the list down is so hard! Thanks for the advice 😄
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  • Katie
    Rockstar August 2020
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    I totally agree- it’s a very fair way to do it!! You’re very welcome! Praying restrictions will lift for you in the coming weeks ❤️❤️❤️
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  • Sharonda
    Rockstar January 2021
    Sharonda Online ·
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    Does that 50 person limit include vendors as well? Just something to keep in mind as that may affect the number of people you and your fiancé can actually invite. We modified our wedding from 250 to 30 people, so I know how hard it can be, but your friends and family will definitely understand and support you. We had such a large wedding party (7 bridesmaids and 7 groomsmen) that we could not invite them to our Plan B wedding and keep the number of people down, but they were understanding and supportive. And our Plan B wedding was amazing!! More than I ever hoped for!
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  • KYLIE
    Super May 2019
    KYLIE ·
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    A friend had to do this and she chose to keep invited couples together, therefore choosing plus-ones over her own close friends. I don’t think there’s one right choice, but I think I’d do what you’re leaning toward and inviting just the ladies. In normal circumstances, obviously rude but totally COVID appropriate!


    And make sure you check if 50 includes vendors, including those we are onsite temporarily, such an florists.
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  • MK LC
    Just Said Yes October 2020
    MK LC ·
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    Hi Amy! My husband and I had the same problem. We asked ourselves “who can we absolutely not imagine having our wedding without?” This helped us narrow it down. It was still hard as I have a huge immediate family. Great thing is with Covid, everybody was super understanding.
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