To cut to the chase, my grandfather, who was originally going to walk me down the aisle, passed last month. My father, even after I asked Poppy to be the one to do it, believes that he is walking me down the aisle. I hadn’t told him in the first place yet, since I feel that I should tell Him in person when I fly to visit him in Texas in April.
I don’t want him to walk me down the aisle. At All. He wasn’t there for a long part of my life, even though he firmly believes that he was too in my life, even when he never called me except for birthdays or holidays, and even then those calls have become one liners in texts thanks to the glory of me having my own cell phone since my 16th birthday.
I want to ask my Uncles on my mothers side now, since they were involved in my life just as much as Poppy was (being the ones to call me, actually sending birthday/Christmas presents, etc), but I’m terrified to have that conversation with my dad. I don’t even know how to start it, because, like I said, he feels that he was involved in my life to constitute that privilege.
I’ve already made changes to some decorations and my bouquet to have Poppy’s memory there throughout the night, as well as having a piece of his fireman’s heavyweight uniform sewn onto my dress, and I’ve already made arrangements to meet with Justin and Shawn (my uncles) to ask them both, but I’m just... stuck on how to tell my dad. He’s quick to take offense or throw shade to my mother as an excuse for him not being there, and I’m trying to avoid mentioning his absences.
The slightest bit of advice would help,!
