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Natalie
Just Said Yes September 2020

Don't wear white... but my dress is pink

Natalie, on March 20, 2019 at 3:42 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 22
I know that it's frowned upon to show up to someone's wedding in white, but I'm wondering how to put in a dress code to not wear pink because that's the color of my wedding dress? Also it will be hard to say that because I wanted it to be a surprise for everyone. Any ideas?? Thanks!

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Latest activity by Jeanelle, on March 22, 2019 at 1:02 AM
  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
    Danielle ·
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    I'm not sure that you can, especially if you want it to be a surprise. That is interesting though, so I'd love to hear how you figure it out. Good Luck! Smiley shame

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  • Kiki
    Super May 2019
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    You can't dictate what your guests wear, it's simple etiquette not to wear white to weddings, so if you decide to wear a color other then white you run the risk of someone else wearing the same color there's no polite way to tell people not to wear a certain color.

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  • Makenzye
    Devoted July 2019
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    Pictures? That so exciting
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  • JustKidding
    VIP April 2018
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    I don't think you could really work that one. People don't wear white out of respect for the bride, but pink isn't really a bridal color and you can't really restrict what else wear.

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  • A
    Expert June 2019
    Afterallthistime...Always ·
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    You can't really tell people what not to wear, and it would ruin your surprise. I doubt even if someone wears pink that they will be mistaken for the bride though. Their dress will be much more casual and the will obviously not be you haha.

    I would not stress about this!

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  • Emly
    Expert June 2020
    Emly ·
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    I think maybe the only way you could pull this off is if you call it like an "all black event" or something to that effect?? Maybe some type of a themed wedding could sway people to wear certain attire? But I'm not quite sure you can blatantly say "please don't wear pink". Unless you have your family spread it by word of mouth not to wear that color and maybe just say your flower girl will be wearing pink and you want her to feel extra special in her pink dress (if you have one and want her to wear pink too) then you surprise everyone with your dress too. Hope you figure out something Smiley smile

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  • VIP September 2019
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    I dont think it matters if anyone else showed up in pink. Their dress is not going to be like a wedding dress plus I wouldn't tell people what they can and can't wear. Good luck on your wedding.
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  • Colleen
    Master September 2019
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    I think if someone wears pink it is ok. Your dress will be different enough it will stand out.
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  • Summerbride77
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    I agree with this. There's really no one to say "don't wear pink" without coming off a little rude.

    Side note: I love seeing pink wedding dresses, do have a pic?

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  • Phelicia
    Devoted September 2019
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    My dress is red. I started on my invites dress code black and white. Hope that helps!!
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  • Elizabeth
    Devoted October 2020
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    How pretty your pink dress..girl it's your day and your moment enjoy your dress. I'm selecting a powder blue or baby blue if I can afford one in my price range.
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  • Adrianna
    Devoted June 2020
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    That’s a tough one! Since you want it to be a surprise, then you definitely don’t want to put on the invite “don’t wear pink.” But also, it’s so hard for people to know you dress will be pink and not white! This will be tricky indeed!
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  • Wendy
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    I am wearing red and I plan on saying not to wear red because our bridal party will be wearing red.. I don’t have a bridal party lol..
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  • Victorian Bride
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    My gown is pale pink, but it is a huge ballgown with a long train. I honestly don't care if anyone else wears pink because there is no way anyone will mistake anyone else for me, the bride. ❤ Hope this helps.
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  • Tracey & Dr. Julian
    Devoted August 2019
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    Maybe you can pick a color you prefer all guest to wear. Example I have been to an all white wedding affair where the dress code said all white. But that color was for all guest.
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  • Kora
    Expert September 2021
    Kora ·
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    Ugh, I hate when people just tell you “it’s not correct to...” Do what YOU want.. I LOVE the idea of a colored dress!! Just put on the invite that it’s a black and white dress code and we need pics of your dress!
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  • Future Mrs. R
    Dedicated June 2019
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    Most people try not to wear your wedding color the day of the wedding so as to not look a bridesmaid. What if on your wedding website you say that your color is pink? This way people will purposely not wear pink and you dont have ruin your surprise.


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  • Phelicia
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    Exactly. That's what I did...
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  • Tanya
    Beginner September 2020
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    I like Emily's idea for "all black event" or something along those lines. If you hired a planner, they can help you with that as well. It's your day, if you don't want anyone else wearing pink, go for it! You're the bride, it's your day, you're paying for their food, they can wear a different dress. That's just me though. My etiquette might be off, but with how things are going this day and age, and couples are paying for it themselves, if you're planning, paying, and doing everything, it's all up to you how you want it done.

    I've told my planner, I don't want women coming to my wedding in a black dress, just because all of my friends wear that color and it'll end up looking like a funeral, so I mentioned to them I want a colorful wedding so they'll stray from that color, but I also gave my planner colored shawls to give to them, just in case. Again, could be bad etiquette, but it's what I wanted. So it should go be the same with you. Give your planner, or someone else at your wedding something to give someone wearing pink. Just an idea.

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  • Kellie Martinez
    Super October 2019
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    I think it might be too difficult to request that guests don't wear pink without telling them that your dress is pink.I would decide which one bothers you more; a few guests showing up in pink or everyone knowing your dress color. I don't think guests knowing would take away from how unique it is by the way. Smiley smile

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