Don't want to sound pushy but...

Be casual, not accusatory. Offer help “I can send you the link if you need it”.


Maybe something like: “Hey guys, I just noticed that the color we chose for the bridesmaids dresses won’t be ordered until May, so I think we need to get our orders in as soon as possible to make sure we have them on time. Let me know if you need the link again or if you’ve got any questions!”

You’re not being pushy at all. They need to get their dresses ordered, and that’s all that you really need to say. Let them know that you spoke with the store and it’s going to take X amount of weeks for them to come in, so they need to do it now so they will have time for alterations.

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I love how you worded this thank you!! I'm thinking they just don't understand how long this process can take and even though June seems far away it's closer than we think.

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Thank you!! I'm just so afraid of being pushy or coming off as a Bridezilla that I have found myself walking on eggshell's with certain things.

View Quoted Comment People who haven’t been involved in weddings (or just weddings of your size) often don’t realize it. We are starting to look at cakes and my future mother in law thinks it’s way too early to do that, but many bakers I’ve talked to are already booked!

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Exactly!! We booked all of our vendors over a year out from our date and I know many other's have done the same. I have loved the wedding planning process and am extremely organized so that helps but it's a lot of details and timelines.

Reminder text just saying that don't forget that dresses need to be ordered by this date in order to get them in time because they won't come in until May and if you need any alterations want to make sure to give yourself plenty of time. Times they prioritize other things and forget about things like that. It can happen so maybe just another reminder text that the just need to be ordered by whatever date David's Bridal States and then go from there but the reality is this if they don't have their dresses then they will just have to be guests.

Did you discuss the ordering deadline when you chose the dress? If so, you don't need to bring it up again, they know. If, for some reason, that didn't come up, I would say "I was just checking out the bridesmaids dresses on DB's website and noticed that the turn around time is about 4 months, just a heads up!"

Also, for your sanity, DB way over estimated delivery times. But I would still tell them they need to get in gear just in case. They can rush the order, but you don't want to deal with that

I don't think that's a bridezilla move but how it's viewed will largely depend on how you word it. Maybe throw in how much u appreciate everything they are doing (have done for you in the past).
Also, EVERYONE I know had this experience w bridesmaids dresses at DB. They immensely overestimate delivery time. I ordered in June for November wedding, had the dress (in Chianti color btw) in July thought it said I won't have it till end of September. So though it's stressful and u don't want to take ant chances I wouldn't freak out too much. Imagine u have a fit, they order and dresses come in after 4 weeks...

I do know they can grossly overestimate the ordering times for sure. I ordered my dress in October and they said it would come in around February and I had it in hand by Thanksgiving. The one BM who ordered in December doesn't have her's yet but her date said March 2020. When we decided on this material and color we knew it had a 4ish month turn around so I did make it pretty clear they should order sooner rather than later, but that was just over a month ago. I'm thinking of sending out the gentle reminder text the beginning of February as that will basically have given them 2 months to try on, select and order their dresses. We kind of dragged our feet on the dresses as one of my BM's had weight loss surgery and has no idea what size she will be in June. This BM and myself have been chatting about her situation anyway as she wants to order but lost on a size...however she still hasn't tried anything on for comparison yet either. This is literally the most stressful part of the whole process lol

View Quoted Comment Yes! I love the way she worded it. By saying “we” instead of “you” or “you girls” sounds a lot better!

I am right there with ya. I picked out a top, skirt and belt on amazon, sent them all the links, heard from a few when they ordered, and again when they received. I asked them to have everything ordered by the end of January, because the shipping on the skirt was so long. I was nervous as I hadn't heard from a few of the less involved girls and was worried they would blow it off until too late. I sent a text 2 days ago and said

"Hey ladies, just wanted to remind you to order your stuff if you haven't. I know some of you have already ordered/received them. I did notice the shipping date on the skirt is to the end of February already. Also, I am gathering addresses for invitations so if circumstances have changed and you would rather attend as a guest, please send me your address so I can send you your invitation"

I would just remind them that it's getting closer to ordering and just leave the ball in their court. DB does over estimate their delivery date to cover themselves. The dresses that my girls are wear, they were told that it would take 12 weeks to come in, but their dresses came in literally 6 days later.