Don't want father to walk me down the aisle

You dont have to walk down the aisle with anyone.

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Walk yourself!

Do you have a brother?

Walk down by yourself.

They are good enough to pay for it but not good enough to walk you ?? I would pay for it yourself and walk alone in that situation

I would just walk myself down.

I have a similar situation. Different parent problems, but both wanted to walk me down the aisle (separately) and I didn't want that. Initially I felt like since they both gave me money to help out I should let one or both of them do it, but every time I thought it about it I cried or cringed. I finally told both of them that, while I love them both, my vision of my perfect wedding is me walking down the aisle by myself. It's a day about me and my FH, just as your day is about you and your FH. Find a way that both your parents can be a part of it in different ways. For instance, my mom is doing a reading & I will do a father/daughter dance with my dad. Both are also things I didn't want, but made me cringe less than being walked down the aisle. If your Opa will walk you down the aisle on his own, that's great, but if it puts him in a bad situation you will also have to respect that and be prepared to possibly walk alone (which I think is awesome anyway, all the attention will be focused on you!) Your wedding is about compromise sometimes, but not to the point that it jeopardizes your happiness. Be firm with both of them and remind them this day is about you.

Also, a parent giving you money doesn't mean they can dictate the day. Money should be given

out of love and because they want your day to be as special as you imagined it. Don't let that influence your decision. (But, if you're set on this it is good to be prepared for them to say they won't pay for it. Hopefully it won't ever come to that.)

Walk down by your self

My dad is the same. I have an 8 year old son and he is walking me down the aisle.

Thank you everyone!

I walked myself down the aisle 13 years ago, so I write this with some perspective. My dear, this is your wedding. You should be surrounded by as much love as possible and if that means your mother and/or father don't walk you down the aisle, then so be it. I would suggest being as kind as possible (whether you think they deserve it or not) when telling them your decision. I wish you strength, love & happiness <3