Don't love my wedding band

I definitely have seen people just wear their engagement ring or just their wedding band,or even one on each hand! Having a set of rings is really just societal/cultural traditions. I think you can wear your rings however you like, they are yours, a symbol of love between you and your husband.
Regarding the first band, I think something similar to that but thinner would compliment your e-ring quite well! If you wanted more bling I think a thin pave ring, possibly contour, would look great!

Can you get something custom made that looks like the 3rd picture but contoured? If you go to a local jeweler, they should be able to make something. I got my wedding band custom made to contour my engagement ring because it was a bit of a unique shape, a little similar to yours. While it may not be the ring you exchanged on your wedding day, it's still a ring symbolizing your commitment, and you should love it. You're having a reception coming up, right? Maybe you can do a mini vow renewal as part of that and use the new ring during the ring exchange? That way it symbolizes your re-commitment in front of all your loved ones?

Rather than forfeiting either ring that has such sentimental value to you, why don’t you wear your engagement ring on the right hand and your wedding band on the left?

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Thank you so much for this thoughtful advice. You make some great points! My mom never had an engagement ring and only ever wore her wedding band. Because of the low setting of my engagement ring I knew finding a ring to go with it would always be tricky. I wish I had just given myself the space to think I could just wear my e-ring on its own, even after we were married. It would have saved me money from buying a band I didn't love and now these feelings of guilt that go with it.

I do love the idea of wearing one ring on each hand. Unfortunately my left ring finger is my smallest finger (aside from my pinkie fingers) and my rings don't fit on my right hand at all. Thank you for the suggestion though. If my rings fit on my other hand I think that solution would have worked really well for me!

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I could definitely get a new ring made (and I can order a new ring from the same company) but the bummer with a custom design is that I don't get to see the rings together. I'm just worried I'll spend more money on something I don't like and cannot return or exchange.

I probably should have admitted to myself I didn't love it earlier, because our wedding celebration is in less than a month and that's not enough time to get any kind of custom replacement ring unfortunately. I do think I would feel better if it could have had its own moment in a way or if my current wedding band could be altered in a way that I like it. I really don't just want my current wedding band to sit in a drawer, which is what I know will happen if I get a new one.

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I do love this idea but my rings don't find on my right hand - my right ring finger is about 1/2 size larger than my left. My left ring finger is smaller than all my other fingers (save my pinkies), so I don't have any other fingers that the rings fit on. Bummer, because it would have been the perfect solution for me!

View Quoted Comment You could always get it resized to fit your other hand, or at the very least, it can still be a family heirloom piece!

View Quoted Comment With it being such a basic band, it should be easy to resize it

I don't have a specific wedding band, so essentially my engagement ring just became my wedding ring. I also don't really wear jewelry normally, which is a good part of why I chose to go that route. A friend of mine wears her wedding band (just a plain silver band) on her right hand and the engagement ring on the left because she didn't like the look of any sort of band with the engagement ring. I'll echo PPs to say that could be a good idea in your case, and that resizing it would honestly be really easy and not too expensive. It sounds like you still have time to get that done before your celebration if that's the route you want to go.

Rose gold is more difficult to resize than white or yellow gold, due to the alloys used. It's prone to cracking (some websites even say you cannot resize a rose gold ring, others don't recommend doing it more than once). Getting my e-ring resized was so nerve wracking and I had to send it back to the company to do so (and there is not enough time to do so with my wedding band before our celebration). I think its one of the reasons my wedding band cannot be traded up; I'd be fine with melting it and redoing it as something else but I don't think rose gold is as reusable/recyclable as other alloys, so I'm pretty much stuck with it. My wedding band is contoured to fit my e-ring, so it looks a little wonky worn on its own. It's fine for infrequent use but I wouldn't want it to be something I regularly wear that way. If I could just take it and shove it on my other finger I would do it because it would be a no cost solution that is easy to reverse. But to resize it I will spend more money to end up with a contoured ring that doesn't look right worn on its own but also doesn't fit my e-ring and is also not what I would have chosen if I was picking a ring to wear solo. It just doesn't make sense for me to spend more money on changing the ring I have to be less ideal than it already is. So resizing my ring to wear on the other hand isn't a solution that is going to work for me.

Welp the company my rings come from has gotten so overloaded with new business they have put a hold on custom orders. I found some promising rings on Etsy, but decided to go to Kay jewelers so I could compare some different bands with my ring side by side and not repeat the entire process of doing an online custom order I'm not happy with.

I really like the look of a very thin half eternity band, although Kay didn't have any contoured ones available to put with my ring. After more digging I found an Etsy shop that does inexpensive solid 14k gold rings, so I ordered a pretty, very dainty curved white gold design with cubic zirconia stones that has a delicate enough curve that it works on its own without looking wonky, but also pairs nicely with a ring shaped like mine. I'm not sure how I will like the mixed metal look, but I think its worth a try. Hopefully I like it better, but if not, at least I can return it because I am not ordering a custom ring this time.

I REALLY love the way the plain band looks with your engagement ring. Just my two cents!

I definitely have seen plenty of people who don’t wear their wedding bands, for whatever reason, but it seems like you would want to wear it if you liked it more, so I would recommend getting another one if you and your DH are okay with that. I used Allurez for all of our rings, and they have always been nothing but helpful when trying to pick out designs, colors, etc.: https://www.allurez.com/design-your-own-engagement-ring

They have Diamond and Jewelry Consultants that you can speak with to get help picking something that might match your engagement ring a bit better.

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Another vote for this. I much prefer it to the one with the stones, it looks classic and pretty to me, but the only person who really has to like what they see is you.

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Thank you! I actually like both rings on their own, still am not sure how much I love them together but I'm trying to just own that its my ring. I've been wearing them separately depending on my mood/activities for the day. I've only been pairing them up occasionally and maybe I'll grow used to wearing two at the same time. I don't wear jewelry much and it might just be that wearing two stacked rings (regardless of what they look like or how thin they are) just feels clunky to me. Each ring on its own feels dainty and more "me."

I really appreciate your perspective and comment!

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Thank you. Its growing on me. I think wearing two rings at once just feels like a lot (I never really wore rings before and just wearing the one ring was a big adjustment), and right now I feel like either on its own is comfortable and flattering but them together just feels like too much. Maybe I'll get used to it over time, or just pick one or the other most days, depending on my mood, and then only pair them up infrequently.