Don’t like my ring

Honestly I'd tell him. This is a main reason many people suggest that picking out the ring not be a surprise, there are many trends and settings and everyone has different taste.


Just explain to him that you love the thought of the ring and what is represents, but it is not what you pictured wearing for the rest of your lives. Perhaps you guys can make a plan to have the stone(s) he purchased reset into a setting you like. You're about to marry this man, you should be able to tell him how you feel.

I think that especially since it’s been 9 months and it still hasn’t grown on you, you should definitely be honest and let him know. Especially if there were any warranties or anything on the ring that might last a year, you’ll want to tell him before that runs out. You definitely have it more than enough time to try and love it. Also, you could just switch to your wedding band after your wedding and keep your engagement ring for special occasions. A lot of women just wear one or the other daily (but if you really want to have both rings, just tell him and get another one). Maybe offer to help with the cost if it will be financially burdensome for him to get a second ring.

I agree with the previous comments- I would be honest with your fiancé. Especially now that you’ve had it for nine months and still don’t like it. I would probably focus on the fact that it reminds you of the ring your ex-husband gave you, and that you were hoping with time that feeling would go away. But, unfortunately, it hasn’t. And that you only want to think of your fiancé and the commitment you are making to one another when you look at the ring, not of a failed relationship in the past. And you could suggest using the stone from your ring to put in a different setting. That way, it is technically still the same ring he proposed with.

I would tell your FH. You've given it plenty of time to try to fall in love with it and are still reminded of the previous ring. I'm sure he would rather you have something you love and can wear every day than not. I agree with Cece about using the same stone in a different setting if possible.

I could never tell my fiance I didn’t like it. I would be grateful and end of story. I am sure it is beautiful and the more you live in happiness and peace with your new husband, the more those old memories will disappear

You will be wearing it for the rest of your life so you really should love your ring. I still look at mine a few years later and it brings a smile to my face. I’m sure your FH wants you to feel the same way. He would want it to remind you only of him.

Even if you were willing to bring up the subject, after 9 months, the window of opportunity to return has likely sailed. What is it that you don’t like? I would probably appreciate it for what it symbolizes and consider a reset or upgrade at some point in the future.