Don't let your wedding ruin your friendships

The bride sounds like a diva. The writer was hurt, but she will fair better in the long run. Some people just use others to be emotional punching bags.

ETA: Clarity

This was painful to read. Let this be a lesson, don't make your friends your slaves. Your wedding isn't as important as your friendship.

Oh my god. I can't believe that. I felt like smacking the bride. Who does that? What a selfish person..

That is just awful. don't do this to your friends!

Heartbreaking. She offered an honest, professional opinion about the bridesmaid dresses and cost of alterations-- my girls are all picking their own dresses, but if I had chosen one dress for everyone that I had no idea would cost a fortune in alterations, I would LOVE it if someone had the expertise to speak up and save us all the stress and money! She spent a ton of money and effort throwing a beautiful shower that everyone loved except her "friend." I just want to give that poor girl a hug and say she can be in my wedding party!

That was horrible. And she still apologized to that monster? Thanks so much for sharing.

I totally know brides like this. My BM's don't have to do anything.

Wow that's surprising..

I'm thinking what @LeahH posted...

Am I missing something? The link isn't showing up...

@Katie: You must be on mobile. I put the title instead of the link in the html code. Here's the link: http://www.refinery29.com/bridesmaid-experience-bride-friendship-over#slide

That made me feel sick... I honestly don't understand people sometimes.

I made the mistake of picking my bm too early and had a big falling out with one. We both handled the situation poorly and I'm embarrassed to admit immaturely. I feel like weddings only bring out the worst in people if you let it.

I'm on desktop and neither link is showing anything :/

Wow, this made me so sad. I can't imagine destroying an entire friendship over a fucking dress and a bridal shower.

Also, the amount of money she spent to NOT be in the wedding...JFC.

I was a bridesmaid to a bridezilla once and LeahH is correct, for as long as I'd known her she'd exhibited selfish behavior (we called it only child syndrome). The stories I have from that wedding... myself and another friend/bridesmaid still discuss it 3 years later.

I think there are some brides who believe that tolerating their shit is all part of the fun and games for the BMs. Like they're going to look back fondly on how masterfully they handled her and what good friends they are and such. It's like the brides we see here who gleefully announce "I'm going to be such a 'zilla!" or "My MOH better be ready to calm me down when I freak out over my dress!". They're already planning the freakouts because, for whatever reason, they think the drama is good. And that's such hell for a wedding party.

Something similar happened to me a few years ago. I was meaning to post the story months ago, at a time when there were several post about kicking your bridesmaids out but I never got around to it.

I wasn't the first kicked out of this wedding, the MOH was first. The rest of us were "let go" after the shower/bachelorette party because it wasn't good enough even though we literally did what she told us too. The 3 of us bridemaids still went to the wedding, a destination wedding 5 hours away and paid 250 per night for a hotel even though there were cheaper hotels nearby. We still did all sorts of chores and we still got her gifts.

She unfriended and blocked us a few weeks later. I got cut because I couldn't go to her Christmas Eve party because my mother was sick.

I have been in 4 other weddings and never had a similar encounter. I always had a great experience.

I would have dropped out of this wedding after the bridal salon incident. That is terrible, but I agree with PPs. The stress of a wedding may make someone irritable at times, but it doesn't/shouldn't change who they are. I imagine that this person wasn't that nice of a person even outside of her wedding planning.