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Don't Know What To Do

Vanessa, on January 9, 2020 at 10:07 PM Posted in Planning 0 9

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We had our engagement photos taken months ago, but now my fiance just informed me that he is concerned about her work. His cousin who is going to school for photography was visiting a few days ago and she was critiquing our photos. He now feels our photographer doesn't have enough experience, some of her photos apparently look off center and she doesn't pose us enough. We also met with our florist today and he also doesn't like her now. He feels she doesn't listen to what we want. She does a lot of rustic weddings, but ours is more modern. She was recommended by a friend who didn't have a rustic wedding and her wedding was beautiful. My fiance let me pick all of the vendors because he said he trusted me to pick them. Our wedding is in April and I'm not sure what to do. We already signed contracts and gave deposits. Any advice?

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Latest activity by Gen, on January 10, 2020 at 8:38 AM

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Cyndy · on January 9, 2020 at 10:10 PM
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I would continue to talk about your vendors with him and try to come to a quick resolution. If he’s willing to lose the deposit and find someone else maybe you could both agree on someone. I would remind him that photographers are booked pretty far in advance and it might be hard to find someone now.
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Gen · on January 9, 2020 at 10:11 PM
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If you’ve already given deposits I would, kindly, tell him he needs to get over it lol. If he had an opinion, he should’ve voiced it before money was spent.

Maybe if there’s anything else left to book, let him choose that? And if his cousin is such a good photographer, can’t she take some photos too? That was pretty rude of her to criticize your engagement photos though...
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Leslie · on January 9, 2020 at 11:00 PM
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Most photographers don’t have you centered most of the time. It’s a balance. And I don’t want my pics to look posed but more natural. Maybe talk to him what his vision is for photos and flowers. Then speak to each vendor and see if everyone can get on same page.
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Vanessa · on January 10, 2020 at 7:35 AM
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I don't want to lose our deposit. If we go with different vendors we will go over budget. Plus, the other photographers in are area are way more expensive. She is traveling from a different area so her prices are much better compared to companies where we are getting married. I will definitely have to talk to someone.
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Vanessa · on January 10, 2020 at 7:37 AM
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He didn't really have anything to do with picking out either vendor. I sent him the contracts and he reviewed them. Otherwise, I am the one that researched everything. We have pretty much everything booked. His cousin actually told his mom the photos didn't look good and then she told us the cousin expressed concern. I think the photos look amazing. She was recommended by a friend and my friend absolutely loved her. She also has amazing reviews on here.
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Vanessa · on January 10, 2020 at 7:43 AM
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Well he doesn't like how they don't appear center. He also doesn't like how he looks naturally in photos so he wants someone who is going to pose us. I don't like that idea at all. He doesn't like that the florist does mostly rustic and our wedding isn't rustic. She showed us a ton of ideas and he went to my friend's wedding that she was the florist to and their wedding wasn't rustic.
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Sarah · on January 10, 2020 at 7:47 AM
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If he told you to choose who you wanted and you signed contracts and nothing has been an issue until now he doesn’t suddenly get to decide you need to hire other people. Outside of losing your deposits, a lot of vendors charge a cancellation fee the closer to the wedding you get. Also something to keep in mind is that 3 months out, any vendors that are still available aren’t going to be the best of the best anyway unless you get really lucky with someone who has had another couple cancel.
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Anna · on January 10, 2020 at 8:25 AM
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I would just trust myself and go with the Vendors that you chose.
You chose them for a reason. There is always going to be a critic.
Perhaps his photographer friend, is upset that they didn't get to do the pictures, who knows.Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and nothing is perfect.I find that sometimes, the beauty lies in the imperfection.
If you have seen previous work from your Florist, trust them. Just because they specialize in a particular type of wedding, it doesn't mean that any other style will not be beautiful.
I'm sure they take pride in their work and will do a beautiful job.He's just letting other people get in his head. Don't let them persuade your choices. I would stand firm, if it was me.Good luck to you!❤
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Gen · on January 10, 2020 at 8:38 AM
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Sounds like maybe his cousin is just being a snob then lol. As long as you like the photos, who cares what she thinks?
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