Don't know what else to do!! Future Sister-in-Law Drama!

I would just leave it as, "this is where you should be, this is what time, and please wear your BM dress"

I am not sure why you invited her to be in your wedding party knowing you don't care for her attitude. Hindsight is 20/20. Any who, you're stuck with her. You did right by dropping off the dress to her. The ball is in her court at this point. FH should have a talk with her.

You can't unask her. Can you just ignore her attitude, avoid her and wait to see if she shows up at the wedding in the dress? If she makes a scene at the wedding/reception, feel free to tell her to take her ass home.

How is your relationship with FMIL? And what is FMIL's relationship with this daughter? Could she talk to her? Run interference for you?

JSYK, it's sister-IN-law.

By no means does she have to be in your wedding just because she's to be your snl. My fiancés sister and I have the same problem and she's just not gonna be in the wedding. It's yalls day you need to be happy with it not all stressed

Yea I probably wouldn't have asked someone I don't care for, no matter their relationship. You're going to have to just suck it up and figure out a common ground. You made the call to include her and you'll have to figure out how to make it work.

Courtney, but the problem is she's already asked her. It's a little late to try to take that back, since she's bought a dress and everything.

Personally I wouldn't have asked someone I didn't care for to be in my bridal party. But since you've already asked her, I'd just ignore her attitude and let it go. She'll either show up at your wedding in her bridesmaids dress or she won't. Either way, don't let her attitude affect your day.

I should bend YOU over and spank you for asking someone whose attitude you don't care for to be your bridesmaid. Bad, bad Taylor.

It's too late.. If you kick her out now, you're in for a lifetime of SIL pain. Just deal with it. Sorry! Try to minimize your interactions with her.. And have fh there if you do

That's what I get for trying to be the bigger person! I have no other qualms with anyone else in his family except for her. His mom is wonderful, love her to death. His dad has always been great to me and so has his half sister. It is only her that has been a major problem since we started planning. She never reached out to my fiance when we got engaged to say she was happy for us and she barely speaks to him as it is.

It's okay to be the bigger person Tay Tay. You didn't have to do it by asking her to be your BM. It wasn't going to magically make her NOT be a bitch. LOL

I'll hold off on the spanking for now b/c you sound sweet.

I agree with @ Stephanie N. Why did you even ask her to be in your bridal party?? She sounds like drama and if I were you I would just say deal with her from a distance. Just ignore her attitude and pray for the best.

I like the idea of saying this is where to be and when. If she doesn't show up, have a contingency plan. But absolutely I would talk to FH and have him either talk to his sister if possible.

Amanda F, what sort of "contingency plan" would be needed?